I have never been asked one question as often as I have this one.
"Lisa, tell me. In your opinion why do men cheat?"
If you read between the lines, what is being revealed in this question is really nothing more than one woman's, or many women's expectation of men. Sadly we live in a culture that seems to presume it is impossible for men NOT to cheat. It is as if in many ways, society cannot separate man from beast. We can send men to the moon, and transmit words through airwaves, but we can't seem to raise the bar on man's ability to control his primal impulse. It is as if because men secrete testosterone, they are given a pass or an excuse for not being able to keep their penis's in their pants.
The truth is, what a man thinks he is, he is. If a man believes he cannot not cheat, this man will likely cheat. His beliefs will attract thoughts, and situations that will reinforce that belief.
If on the other hand, this man uses his complete conscious mind, and chooses to confront that old societal belief, he can change that belief. Men can shove themselves into one vat, and draw parallels between themselves and silver back gorilla's, or they can expect more from themselves instead. Either way, the law of attraction will be at play.
As a man thinks, so shall he become. And thinking by the way, is a choice.
Females also play a role in why men cheat or why they seem to find themselves in relationships with men that cheat.
Women will tell me they never expected their spouse to cheat. They will claim they were shocked to discover their spouses were being unfaithful. But after sitting and talking to them more openly it is usually revealed that on various levels the women did not trust their spouses.
Perhaps it had to do with money, or where their spouses really were when they said they were working late, or how their mates reacted when an attractive woman entered a room, but in every case the women I spoke to could trace back a moment in time when they found themselves wrestling with feelings of trust when it came to the men in their lives.
This observation in no way is meant to imply that women cause their spouses to cheat. This article is however meant to stir ones thinking about what it is they THINK, about their mate, and more importantly what they think about themselves.
If at anytime a person ignores, denies or suppresses feelings or thoughts that question their trust in another, this disowning will eventually, as it gets played out lead to more destructive circumstances in the relationship, like an affair.
It is difficult for the unconscious and lacking self aware mind to imagine that she may have been part of the co-creating that manifested such circumstances in her marriage. This is not to imply blame on one spouse for the lack of integrity of the other. But the reality is, if there is a lack of integrity in the mind, there will be a lack of integrity in the physical. The non physical, always matches the physical.
Whether it is a lack of personal integrity of the man, or a lack of self respect in the woman, either road can only lead to destruction.
What I would like my readers to contemplate is deeper thinking, and thus embrace a broader view of the situation.
Imagine you are the woman who has been cheated on. Imagine it is your husband who exhibited complete disregard and or integrity for your feelings. Now ask your Self, from an observers vantage point, detached from anger, how many times you disregarded or showed a lack of integrity for your own feelings or worth in relation to your spouse. How often did you disown that gut feeling that made you feel he was lying to you? How often did you deny your right to your own feelings, and instead pretended like what you needed didn't matter? How often did your instincts tell you something was wrong and instead of confronting them, you ignored them?
If you tolerate a disowning of your own Self within the flesh that you are, and if you invite those into your life that show no respect for you, or your feelings, you cannot expect your daily life to reveal or manifest anything less.
Okay, so you wanna know why men cheat. Here it goes.
Some men cheat because they believe it is impossible for a man not to cheat. Some men cheat because they get bored with their wives and the routine of marriage. Some men cheat because they are insecure and need constant ego gratification from outside themselves. Some men cheat because they aren't happy unless they are feeling like they are getting away with something they shouldn't. Some men cheat because they fear aging and think a newer piece of ass means they aren't getting older. Some men cheat because there is a slut in the room. Some men cheat because its a bachelor party and the hookers are already paid for, and hey what guy is going to rat out another guy after he's already been with one of the hookers. Some guys cheat because the distraction of the affair makes their day go by faster. But all men who cheat, don't believe they cannot NOT cheat...what a man thinks he is...he is...
Ladies, you lovely, nurturing, splendid peace seeking creatures that you are, here is my best advice to you...
Love your Self as if you were the only person left on this planet. Listen to music that gives you thrill bumps. Buy your own bouquets of flowers. Pick careers that fulfill you. Choose relationships that lift you rather than drain you. Learn to dance in the rain. Refuse to allow anger, blame, or regret to spend one more second in your body longer than necessary. Release any negative emotion as if they were helium filled balloons being whisked away by the sky. Spend time alone, without the television, radio, cell phone or Ipod, and like it. Meditate on things that make you smile, and wave at every tiny baby you see, because all that baby sees is the perfect smiling creature that you are. Revel in the knowing that you are a woman, a creator, and a maker of life. Know your own mind, and respect the guidance that comes from within. If you feel like enough is enough, then it is. Learn to walk away when necessary, and when its necessary to stay. Turn your eyes inward, and stop seeking validation from others. Know that a partnership is a gift, but if your partner doesn't see the gift that you are, you are better off single giving gifts to your Self.
When you have finally learned to love the magnificent being that you are, you will then attract to you a mate who also loves the magnificent being he is. He will see in you a reflection of his perfect Self. Perfect love of Self casts out all fear. When you learn to love your Self fearlessly, then and only then can you expect for a perfect love to manifest in your reality.
Ladies what you think you are, you are...
Peace,joy and love to you all...
Lisa
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Saturday, July 23, 2011
How To Improve Self Esteem/And The Law of Attraction
Often when I mention the term 'the law of attraction', I am met with a confused eye. I get the impression that whom I am speaking to thinks that the law of attraction is some form of a new age religion or something close to it. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Since the "Secret" was released, many have been exposed to expanded ideas they otherwise may never have been exposed to. Our society seems to separate rather than integrate, as evidence in cultures, neighborhoods, government and religion. While culturally birds of a feather seem to flock together, the reality is beneath our skin, programming and conditioning, we are all the same.
Our government is branched and divided, as are our religions, who incredibly have all created gods to coincide with a particular cultures ideas of god. The question that haunts me however is, did god create man, or did man create god? And if we now, as modern, enormously intelligent advanced human beings, we do not question what we have been programmed to believe, and accept the same ideas of the not so modern or enormously intelligent minds of the past, how then will we ever truly discover the truth?
What is needed at this time is courage, open minded non judgements, and a dash of good old common sense.
What we need is a balanced blend of science, spirituality, and a basic understanding of human psychology.
Come on people-if we are all human beings, then we ALL came from the same source. If there is a god, he/she/it is a creator, and created us all. Peel back our skin, break us down to the beginning and our existence can be found within the workings of an atom. Some religions will say we all began with Adam, but in my opinion it is simply two sides of the same coin. One side represents the non physical while the other represents the physical.
In addition, as a man thinks so shall he create. What a man reeps in his non physical mind or thoughts so shall he sow. The non physical is always equal to the physical result. An ill mind will create ill situations and manifestations in his physical life.
Your beginning is proven by science, and cannot be disputed. What is now even being recognized by science is the idea of intelligence or collective consciousness. If you research the quantum field and great minds like Plank and Einstein you will be amazed to discover that atoms are mostly a field of energy. In fact an atom is 99.999999999999 percent field of space energy. You are more field energy than you are a 'physical being made up of matter'. You are more a receiver and transmitter of energy than you are anything else.
Buddhism is founded on the ideas of emptiness, oneness, and the nature of reality.
Buddhism is not founded on the idea of a god. In fact, Buddha is the name given to human beings who have reached enlightenment, and choose to help spread the wisdom of enlightenment. Buddhism holds the ill thinking of man responsible for the chaos of the mans life, and teaches that the only way to heal an ill life is through connecting to ones true Self by way of meditation, pure thought, and discipline.
Science does not point to the idea of a god, yet it does now point to an intelligence or as Max Plank described,"All matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force... We must assume behind this force the existence of a conscious and intelligent Mind. This Mind is the matrix of all matter". Science has now begun believing in the idea of consciousness, which is very similar to the Buddhist teachings of Nirvana or enlightenment. Nirvana is attained through becoming whole or one with the mind, which brings forth an appreciation for all that is and an understanding that all that is is also us.
It has been proven that just by observing an object you can change the nature of it. During the double slit experiment it was proven that when particles were unobserved they behaved like waves and had indefinite patterns and infinite possibility. But when the particles were observed the particles took on a finite number of patterns.
Stay with me folks!
Pull it all together. Use that magnificent mind of yours and THINK it through. Make the connections.
In the above experiment science has theorized that the observer of the experiment is likened to human consciousness.
Therefore when our minds are unobserved, like in a sleep state, our dream state is limitless. But when we awaken and become the observers of what is happening in our time and space, we then limit our possibilities.
This is because our BRAINS have been programmed to compartmentalize people, places and situations. We limit ourselves through our perceptions, which must pass through the filter of the ego.
The truth is we are limitless human intelligence. Unobserved, free from judgement and the desire to put ourselves and others into boxes, there truly is nothing we cannot achieve. This is a scientific fact proven in the double slit experiment. We, our projections effect our reality. We are the creators of our reality whether we believe we are or not. Your life is the result of the labels you have accepted by others, or given yourself, or by the meanings you have attached to yourself, others and or the things in your life.
There is a lot of information to digest in this article. But it is my belief, that if you pull it apart, ponder it, dissect it, and do your own research, you will come up with the same result that so many have.
Your potential is only limited by the thoughts you think.
Consider what Max Plank had to say about the force that created you; "All matter originates only by nature of a force. This force is created by an intelligence-a life force that requires only that we grow. Death, and disease is the non expansion of that energy gone awry".
You my dear are perfect. You are magnificent and if you believe in anything less it is because you have been programmed by others to believe in limits. There is nothing you cannot be, do or have. Your worth is not something you need to achieve or be good enough for. If you are suffering it is because you are not searching within for truth. Rather you avoid your shadow self, and choose to seek validation from other unenlightened human minds.
You are the observer, and you are being observed and projected upon by others. Just as when the instruments tried to observe the particles in the above mentioned double slit experiment, your conscious mind observes you and others and is projecting continually. What you "think" or what you "believe" alters what happens in your reality, and thus through the nature of the law of attraction, one thought will attract to it another thought of equal negative or positive charges.
If you choose to not search for happiness from within, you will not find enlightenment or peace, or joy, for your happiness will be based on something external.
You cannot seek self esteem or the love of self, from outside the self, also referred to by science as the force or the matrix.
Your only way to improve self esteem is by learning to embrace scientific truth. You are energy, and you are the observer and creator of your reality. You are writing the script that is your life.
Start now being more aware of what role you are playing in your drama. If you see yourself as a victim, expect the role you choose to come with many others who are willing to see you that way as well.
If you see yourself as helpless, expect others to see you and treat you that way as well.
You are not helpless. You have power within you, but unless you believe that you cannot change your life.
What you think you create. Do you know what you think?
Since the "Secret" was released, many have been exposed to expanded ideas they otherwise may never have been exposed to. Our society seems to separate rather than integrate, as evidence in cultures, neighborhoods, government and religion. While culturally birds of a feather seem to flock together, the reality is beneath our skin, programming and conditioning, we are all the same.
Our government is branched and divided, as are our religions, who incredibly have all created gods to coincide with a particular cultures ideas of god. The question that haunts me however is, did god create man, or did man create god? And if we now, as modern, enormously intelligent advanced human beings, we do not question what we have been programmed to believe, and accept the same ideas of the not so modern or enormously intelligent minds of the past, how then will we ever truly discover the truth?
What is needed at this time is courage, open minded non judgements, and a dash of good old common sense.
What we need is a balanced blend of science, spirituality, and a basic understanding of human psychology.
Come on people-if we are all human beings, then we ALL came from the same source. If there is a god, he/she/it is a creator, and created us all. Peel back our skin, break us down to the beginning and our existence can be found within the workings of an atom. Some religions will say we all began with Adam, but in my opinion it is simply two sides of the same coin. One side represents the non physical while the other represents the physical.
In addition, as a man thinks so shall he create. What a man reeps in his non physical mind or thoughts so shall he sow. The non physical is always equal to the physical result. An ill mind will create ill situations and manifestations in his physical life.
Your beginning is proven by science, and cannot be disputed. What is now even being recognized by science is the idea of intelligence or collective consciousness. If you research the quantum field and great minds like Plank and Einstein you will be amazed to discover that atoms are mostly a field of energy. In fact an atom is 99.999999999999 percent field of space energy. You are more field energy than you are a 'physical being made up of matter'. You are more a receiver and transmitter of energy than you are anything else.
Buddhism is founded on the ideas of emptiness, oneness, and the nature of reality.
Buddhism is not founded on the idea of a god. In fact, Buddha is the name given to human beings who have reached enlightenment, and choose to help spread the wisdom of enlightenment. Buddhism holds the ill thinking of man responsible for the chaos of the mans life, and teaches that the only way to heal an ill life is through connecting to ones true Self by way of meditation, pure thought, and discipline.
Science does not point to the idea of a god, yet it does now point to an intelligence or as Max Plank described,"All matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force... We must assume behind this force the existence of a conscious and intelligent Mind. This Mind is the matrix of all matter". Science has now begun believing in the idea of consciousness, which is very similar to the Buddhist teachings of Nirvana or enlightenment. Nirvana is attained through becoming whole or one with the mind, which brings forth an appreciation for all that is and an understanding that all that is is also us.
It has been proven that just by observing an object you can change the nature of it. During the double slit experiment it was proven that when particles were unobserved they behaved like waves and had indefinite patterns and infinite possibility. But when the particles were observed the particles took on a finite number of patterns.
Stay with me folks!
Pull it all together. Use that magnificent mind of yours and THINK it through. Make the connections.
In the above experiment science has theorized that the observer of the experiment is likened to human consciousness.
Therefore when our minds are unobserved, like in a sleep state, our dream state is limitless. But when we awaken and become the observers of what is happening in our time and space, we then limit our possibilities.
This is because our BRAINS have been programmed to compartmentalize people, places and situations. We limit ourselves through our perceptions, which must pass through the filter of the ego.
The truth is we are limitless human intelligence. Unobserved, free from judgement and the desire to put ourselves and others into boxes, there truly is nothing we cannot achieve. This is a scientific fact proven in the double slit experiment. We, our projections effect our reality. We are the creators of our reality whether we believe we are or not. Your life is the result of the labels you have accepted by others, or given yourself, or by the meanings you have attached to yourself, others and or the things in your life.
There is a lot of information to digest in this article. But it is my belief, that if you pull it apart, ponder it, dissect it, and do your own research, you will come up with the same result that so many have.
Your potential is only limited by the thoughts you think.
Consider what Max Plank had to say about the force that created you; "All matter originates only by nature of a force. This force is created by an intelligence-a life force that requires only that we grow. Death, and disease is the non expansion of that energy gone awry".
You my dear are perfect. You are magnificent and if you believe in anything less it is because you have been programmed by others to believe in limits. There is nothing you cannot be, do or have. Your worth is not something you need to achieve or be good enough for. If you are suffering it is because you are not searching within for truth. Rather you avoid your shadow self, and choose to seek validation from other unenlightened human minds.
You are the observer, and you are being observed and projected upon by others. Just as when the instruments tried to observe the particles in the above mentioned double slit experiment, your conscious mind observes you and others and is projecting continually. What you "think" or what you "believe" alters what happens in your reality, and thus through the nature of the law of attraction, one thought will attract to it another thought of equal negative or positive charges.
If you choose to not search for happiness from within, you will not find enlightenment or peace, or joy, for your happiness will be based on something external.
You cannot seek self esteem or the love of self, from outside the self, also referred to by science as the force or the matrix.
Your only way to improve self esteem is by learning to embrace scientific truth. You are energy, and you are the observer and creator of your reality. You are writing the script that is your life.
Start now being more aware of what role you are playing in your drama. If you see yourself as a victim, expect the role you choose to come with many others who are willing to see you that way as well.
If you see yourself as helpless, expect others to see you and treat you that way as well.
You are not helpless. You have power within you, but unless you believe that you cannot change your life.
What you think you create. Do you know what you think?
Friday, July 22, 2011
The Law of Attraction and Science Fact
Back when I was in school, I was taught that an electron was the part of an atom that made its way around the atom in an orbital fashion. I can remember being told that the negative charge of the electron, and the positive charge of the protons within the nucleus of the atom, were in relation to one another, and that interaction between the positive and the negative is what was holding the atom together.
And I believed what I was told.
It turns out they were wrong.
Atoms are the fundamental thing that makes us what we are. If we were to dissect all that we are physically, at our basic, atomic level, we would be one singular atom.
An atom is 99.999999999999% empty space, therefore we are 99.999999999999% empty free space.
But how can that be?
In the center of an atom is a nucleus that holds protons, which are positively charged, and neutrons which have no charge. Outside the nucleus, are the atoms electrons which are negatively charged.
What scientist now know is that there is no orbit. You cannot plot the path of an electron. If you were to look at an atom on a screen, you would see that outside the nucleus of an atom is a circular, wide varied wave of a charge, rather than one particle (electron) orbiting the nucleus of the atom.
What the outside of the nucleus of the atom is, is empty charged space.
The range of the space cannot be measured. We do not and cannot predict the range of the atoms space in space or time space reality....
You are 99.999999999999% space...that is electrically charged...
If know anything about The Law of Attraction, and you know that like attracts like, you must learn to understand that this is science. It is not new age thinking. It is a universal and scientifically proven law.
Like charged particles attract like charged particles.
Elements in nature with the same number of protons are liken unto themselves.
If science is now correct, then you and I are 99.9999999999% electrically charged beings, and only a fraction of material matter.
If this is true, then our society is far far far away from valuing what it should be considering valuable.
If we are so little physical matter, then why do we fret so much about matter at all, for we are more electrically charged space, with the divine, supreme ability to summon our consciousness to an awakening that allows us the ability to imagine, and to dream the reality of our desires, and to attach positively charged emotions to those dreams, and thus, by the very nature of the law of attraction, draw into our physical experience the compliment of our dreams.
If all that is, at a fundamental atomic level is electrically charged 99.999999999999% space, then it can be no other way...We by absolute design create in our reality of time and space, by drawing to us what we believe with our conscious mind.
The question then becomes, What do you choose to believe?
And I believed what I was told.
It turns out they were wrong.
Atoms are the fundamental thing that makes us what we are. If we were to dissect all that we are physically, at our basic, atomic level, we would be one singular atom.
An atom is 99.999999999999% empty space, therefore we are 99.999999999999% empty free space.
But how can that be?
In the center of an atom is a nucleus that holds protons, which are positively charged, and neutrons which have no charge. Outside the nucleus, are the atoms electrons which are negatively charged.
What scientist now know is that there is no orbit. You cannot plot the path of an electron. If you were to look at an atom on a screen, you would see that outside the nucleus of an atom is a circular, wide varied wave of a charge, rather than one particle (electron) orbiting the nucleus of the atom.
What the outside of the nucleus of the atom is, is empty charged space.
The range of the space cannot be measured. We do not and cannot predict the range of the atoms space in space or time space reality....
You are 99.999999999999% space...that is electrically charged...
If know anything about The Law of Attraction, and you know that like attracts like, you must learn to understand that this is science. It is not new age thinking. It is a universal and scientifically proven law.
Like charged particles attract like charged particles.
Elements in nature with the same number of protons are liken unto themselves.
If science is now correct, then you and I are 99.9999999999% electrically charged beings, and only a fraction of material matter.
If this is true, then our society is far far far away from valuing what it should be considering valuable.
If we are so little physical matter, then why do we fret so much about matter at all, for we are more electrically charged space, with the divine, supreme ability to summon our consciousness to an awakening that allows us the ability to imagine, and to dream the reality of our desires, and to attach positively charged emotions to those dreams, and thus, by the very nature of the law of attraction, draw into our physical experience the compliment of our dreams.
If all that is, at a fundamental atomic level is electrically charged 99.999999999999% space, then it can be no other way...We by absolute design create in our reality of time and space, by drawing to us what we believe with our conscious mind.
The question then becomes, What do you choose to believe?
Thursday, July 21, 2011
The Law Of Attraction And Its Link To Your Beliefs
You are a creator. You create in your thoughts first, and then it appears in your reality.
You do not recognize it as the law of attraction, because it seems too simple, these things you do so ordinarily on a daily basis, but it is the LOA whether you acknowledge that it is or not.
Have you ever wanted a specific type of sneaker? Have you ever found the exact pair of sneakers, bought them and then worn them? If you have, that is the Law of Attraction.
What first happened in your thoughts, you then created in your physical.
First what you were wanting was part of the non-physical; a thought, and then it was experienced in your reality as a physicality; a material thing.
If you did not BELIEVE it were possible for you to acquire those sneakers, then you would never have found them.
Your non belief would have cancelled your wanting of them, and thus would have killed the birthing of your desire.
If you are in an unhappy, violent relationship and do NOT believe you can leave it, then you will not.
Instead you will remain stuck and overwhelmed by all the negative energy that is being stagnated by your inability to pull your thinking forward towards more positive non physical thoughts. Without a belief for that which you are wanting, you cannot use the LOA effectively.
If you want something you do not believe you can do, or acquire, it can never be drawn to you...
What you create in your non physical (thoughts) will produce in the physical (reality in time space).
Science has proven that thoughts are magnetically charged, and that like attracts like.
Your time space reality is merely a mirror into your subconscious BELIEF system. If you live in a beautiful home, enjoy your job, have health, prosperity, and a fulfilling relationship, know this is a reflection of the relationship you have with your Self, or your inner being. It reflects a Self that has found love in its own beingness.
If your life is chaotic, unsettling, and if you are unhealthy, and in an dysfunctional relationship, it is because your relationship with your Self is chaotic, unsettled, unhealthy, and dysfunctional. Your lack of love for your Self, is being mirrored in your time space reality.
You do not recognize it as the law of attraction, because it seems too simple, these things you do so ordinarily on a daily basis, but it is the LOA whether you acknowledge that it is or not.
Have you ever wanted a specific type of sneaker? Have you ever found the exact pair of sneakers, bought them and then worn them? If you have, that is the Law of Attraction.
What first happened in your thoughts, you then created in your physical.
First what you were wanting was part of the non-physical; a thought, and then it was experienced in your reality as a physicality; a material thing.
If you did not BELIEVE it were possible for you to acquire those sneakers, then you would never have found them.
Your non belief would have cancelled your wanting of them, and thus would have killed the birthing of your desire.
If you are in an unhappy, violent relationship and do NOT believe you can leave it, then you will not.
Instead you will remain stuck and overwhelmed by all the negative energy that is being stagnated by your inability to pull your thinking forward towards more positive non physical thoughts. Without a belief for that which you are wanting, you cannot use the LOA effectively.
If you want something you do not believe you can do, or acquire, it can never be drawn to you...
What you create in your non physical (thoughts) will produce in the physical (reality in time space).
Science has proven that thoughts are magnetically charged, and that like attracts like.
Your time space reality is merely a mirror into your subconscious BELIEF system. If you live in a beautiful home, enjoy your job, have health, prosperity, and a fulfilling relationship, know this is a reflection of the relationship you have with your Self, or your inner being. It reflects a Self that has found love in its own beingness.
If your life is chaotic, unsettling, and if you are unhealthy, and in an dysfunctional relationship, it is because your relationship with your Self is chaotic, unsettled, unhealthy, and dysfunctional. Your lack of love for your Self, is being mirrored in your time space reality.
Pain And How To Transcend It
Speaking from a metaphysical point of view, if you can change your perception of pain, you can transcend it.
If you can change the meaning you have attached to pain and DETACH from the fear the human mind has learned to attach to pain, you can move beyond it.
If you were to thank pain for pointing out to you what area of your life you are needing to pay attention to, you would associate a good feeling to pain rather than a negative one like fear.
Pain is often not what holds people back from healing. Instead it is the fear and the whirlwind of attracting negative emotion through like thoughts that is ultimately what destroys the being and renders it assuming it is helpless.
If you can change the meaning you have attached to pain and DETACH from the fear the human mind has learned to attach to pain, you can move beyond it.
If you were to thank pain for pointing out to you what area of your life you are needing to pay attention to, you would associate a good feeling to pain rather than a negative one like fear.
Pain is often not what holds people back from healing. Instead it is the fear and the whirlwind of attracting negative emotion through like thoughts that is ultimately what destroys the being and renders it assuming it is helpless.
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Enablers and How To Leave An Addict
If you are an enabler, then you are enabling whomever it is you are in a relationship with. If you are involved with an addict, you, as defined by your own definition are enabling that addiction.
If you truly believe this is so, you must fully and consciously become aware,(completely, drop the B/S of denial you may have been living in) that you are only helping the addict stay sick.
You have only one choice. Stop...stop doing whatever it is you are doing to help them stay sick. Stop lying, stop covering up, stop turning your head, stop rushing them to the ER, stop making excuses for why you are so overwhelmed, and most of all stop acting like how YOU feel doesn't matter.
Think about this...
You came into this world alone, and you will die alone...In your last moments on this physical earth, and as your physical being begins to shut down, your energy will be summoned out of your body. What should have been a life long journey that was full of joy, excitement, and new Self discoveries, will have been lost...because rather than seeking to find things that make you happy, you will have instead given all your attention to a sick brain...On top of that, in all the caring for that you thought you were doing, you did nothing more but help keep that brain sick...
Enablers, release your desire to control the actions of one who is sick...
Enablers, DETACH from the negative emotion of guilt, and wanting to control the other who is choosing his own destiny, and attracting to him only more negativity. By the power of the Law of Attraction, you are both, you and the addict attracting only more of what you are already experiencing. And until one of you shifts his/her point of focus, you can only attract more of what you are already getting.
Change your mind, and change the course of your life. It is law...
If you truly believe this is so, you must fully and consciously become aware,(completely, drop the B/S of denial you may have been living in) that you are only helping the addict stay sick.
You have only one choice. Stop...stop doing whatever it is you are doing to help them stay sick. Stop lying, stop covering up, stop turning your head, stop rushing them to the ER, stop making excuses for why you are so overwhelmed, and most of all stop acting like how YOU feel doesn't matter.
Think about this...
You came into this world alone, and you will die alone...In your last moments on this physical earth, and as your physical being begins to shut down, your energy will be summoned out of your body. What should have been a life long journey that was full of joy, excitement, and new Self discoveries, will have been lost...because rather than seeking to find things that make you happy, you will have instead given all your attention to a sick brain...On top of that, in all the caring for that you thought you were doing, you did nothing more but help keep that brain sick...
Enablers, release your desire to control the actions of one who is sick...
Enablers, DETACH from the negative emotion of guilt, and wanting to control the other who is choosing his own destiny, and attracting to him only more negativity. By the power of the Law of Attraction, you are both, you and the addict attracting only more of what you are already experiencing. And until one of you shifts his/her point of focus, you can only attract more of what you are already getting.
Change your mind, and change the course of your life. It is law...
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Married Too Quickly
I was recently contacted by a reader who told me he thought he got married too quickly. He said that although he knew his bride for many years prior to their marriage, he was feeling that they married too quickly once they began planning a life together for the future.
He was concerned with the idea that he didn't feel like he and his bride had a real connection. He felt distant from her. He felt as if they were just coexisting. He felt as if there were no sparks between them.
What my reader was describing was the lack of "attracting" power between he and his wife. What this man is looking for is something "metaphysical". He is looking for a thing which cannot be seen, nor touched, but can only be felt in the emotional realm. Where is this emotional realm within us then? Where is this feeling place? Where is the piece of us that is looking to "feel" within us, that draws us to and repels us against others and things in our environment?
I am going to attempt to explain a very complex subject area in a very simple way...and believe you will have a greater understanding as well as an appreciation for that which you and I truly are.
At your core you are an atom.
At the core of all that you see, and don't see, like oxygen, is an atom.
An atom contains within it pure light or energy. That's all. It is a molecular balloon if you will that holds energy, opposed to water like a balloon. This space is within every cell of your body...every cell.
Within each molecular balloon is energy. That is your "feeling" place. Ever hear the phrase, "you lit up when you saw him"? Or what about, "you're glowing"? Ever feel sick to your stomach while watching something violent on television? Where was this place, or this thing within you that made you feel such repulsion? And notice I said "feel"...
We humans speak of emotions but rarely consider where they take place within us, or even what emotions are...
Your belief system, which is primarily your childhood programming and conditioning, plays a significant role in how you process the world around you...If you believe eating caterpillars is the way to get to heaven, then you will light up around caterpillars because that is your conditioning, while someone else would "feel" sick to their stomach watching you delight in the ingestion of such fuzzy yellow creatures.
Back to my reader.
Without him being able to objectively and without judgement uncover the beliefs that govern his thinking, he will never be able to know why it is he feels what he does.
If in his mind he hears the phrase, "I got married too quickly", then throughout the day he will attract ideas from his environment that support that uncovered belief. If he is hanging out with guys who are single, or if he is attracting other attractive women into his life, or if he is simply unable to make himself happy within the confines of a marital union, and on some unconscious level presumes it is his wife's duty to "make" him happy, he will continually find things to support those uncovered beliefs.
The first thing he must do is, know what he is thinking.
Then he must try to figure out why he thinks as he does. Have his friends been influencing him? Does he need to find a passion for a hobby of his own? Are his expectations of marriage unrealistic, or is his bride a truly draining, uninteresting person?
Until he comes to know what it is he is thinking, and until his core beliefs are unearthed, his life will continue to draw to him information that supports his thinking, through the law of attraction.
What ever you spend most of the time thinking about always shows up. It can be no other way. It is the law.
Know what you are thinking, and you can begin to draw to you that which you do want instead of that which you do not want.
He was concerned with the idea that he didn't feel like he and his bride had a real connection. He felt distant from her. He felt as if they were just coexisting. He felt as if there were no sparks between them.
What my reader was describing was the lack of "attracting" power between he and his wife. What this man is looking for is something "metaphysical". He is looking for a thing which cannot be seen, nor touched, but can only be felt in the emotional realm. Where is this emotional realm within us then? Where is this feeling place? Where is the piece of us that is looking to "feel" within us, that draws us to and repels us against others and things in our environment?
I am going to attempt to explain a very complex subject area in a very simple way...and believe you will have a greater understanding as well as an appreciation for that which you and I truly are.
At your core you are an atom.
At the core of all that you see, and don't see, like oxygen, is an atom.
An atom contains within it pure light or energy. That's all. It is a molecular balloon if you will that holds energy, opposed to water like a balloon. This space is within every cell of your body...every cell.
Within each molecular balloon is energy. That is your "feeling" place. Ever hear the phrase, "you lit up when you saw him"? Or what about, "you're glowing"? Ever feel sick to your stomach while watching something violent on television? Where was this place, or this thing within you that made you feel such repulsion? And notice I said "feel"...
We humans speak of emotions but rarely consider where they take place within us, or even what emotions are...
Your belief system, which is primarily your childhood programming and conditioning, plays a significant role in how you process the world around you...If you believe eating caterpillars is the way to get to heaven, then you will light up around caterpillars because that is your conditioning, while someone else would "feel" sick to their stomach watching you delight in the ingestion of such fuzzy yellow creatures.
Back to my reader.
Without him being able to objectively and without judgement uncover the beliefs that govern his thinking, he will never be able to know why it is he feels what he does.
If in his mind he hears the phrase, "I got married too quickly", then throughout the day he will attract ideas from his environment that support that uncovered belief. If he is hanging out with guys who are single, or if he is attracting other attractive women into his life, or if he is simply unable to make himself happy within the confines of a marital union, and on some unconscious level presumes it is his wife's duty to "make" him happy, he will continually find things to support those uncovered beliefs.
The first thing he must do is, know what he is thinking.
Then he must try to figure out why he thinks as he does. Have his friends been influencing him? Does he need to find a passion for a hobby of his own? Are his expectations of marriage unrealistic, or is his bride a truly draining, uninteresting person?
Until he comes to know what it is he is thinking, and until his core beliefs are unearthed, his life will continue to draw to him information that supports his thinking, through the law of attraction.
What ever you spend most of the time thinking about always shows up. It can be no other way. It is the law.
Know what you are thinking, and you can begin to draw to you that which you do want instead of that which you do not want.
Monday, July 18, 2011
Enablers-Those Who Care Too Much
We all know one. We all know someone who for whatever reason seems to feel like the weight of the world is on his/her shoulders. They are those amongst us who are forever scouring around town, running everyone else's errands and usually doing those things for others, that those others could certainly do for themselves.
Most often enabling is a term reserved for those who are involved with another who is chemically addicted. The term 'codependent' was coined a few decades ago to describe the 'emotional disease' that occurs between one who is addicted, and another who is not addicted. The emotional disease is one that requires two participants. One person pursues the other while the other partner tends to withdraw.
In the case of an alcoholic fueled codependent relationship, the pursuer is the one trying to control the alcoholic. The goal is to get the alcoholic to stop drinking. The pursuer is so aware that the alcoholic is ruining his/her life, that they become obsessed with taking care of the alcoholic to the extreme. The pursuer spends more time thinking about how to take care of the alcoholic than they do worrying about what it is they need themselves. The problem is, the more the enabler pursues the alcoholic, the more the alcoholic withdraws and begins to shut down.
On the surface enablers look like they are only doing what is right for the person they care about. But that would only be a smidgeon of the real story.
When we pay more attention to what others think than to what we think, the mirror reality of that, which is our inner truth is, we simply do not know what we think. In fact, we are so foreign to our own Selves, that we would prefer to busy ourselves taking care of someone else than to take care of our own needs.
Enablers have been programmed to believe that their worth is found in doing for others. Enablers were raised to worry more about what others think, want or need, than what they think, want or need. Enablers are those who live in fear of disappointing others, and who can easily anticipate the needs of others, all while having no real clue as to what it might be that may make them happy.
On a psychological level, enablers are looking for a reflection of Self in the validation of others. Their personal belief system is one that has been twisted through the generations. Never having been taught that they are enough, enablers chase that fleeting sense of Self in the reflections of validations drenched in the bitterness of martyrdom. Enablers do and do and do, until their hearts bleed, all in the name of love. But this is not authentic love. This is codependency. A game of cat and mouse.
Although enablers are very kind, empathetic and compassionate human beings, the truth is they are just as manipulating as the addict. Holding true to the Laws of Attraction which states; That which is liken to itself is drawn', enablers and addicts fit like a tailor made glove on a delicate hand.
Whenever we are trying to manipulate someone into doing for us what we believe they should do under the false premise, that others are responsible for our happiness, we cheapen our existence, and fail to rise to the level of Self Actualization that serves us as glorious human beings.
Addicts need help, but not from those who enable their dependency on others as well as chemicals. Addicts need to fall when they trip, and learn to get back up again of their own accord. Enablers need not hide their alcohol, follow them home from work, pay their credit card or cell phone bills, go through their emails, or stalk them on facebook. Instead, enablers need to stop seeking a pseudo sense of Self in the doing for others or in the excessive worrying for others.
The key to any successful and healthy relationship is to first master ones relationship with ones Self.
Most often enabling is a term reserved for those who are involved with another who is chemically addicted. The term 'codependent' was coined a few decades ago to describe the 'emotional disease' that occurs between one who is addicted, and another who is not addicted. The emotional disease is one that requires two participants. One person pursues the other while the other partner tends to withdraw.
In the case of an alcoholic fueled codependent relationship, the pursuer is the one trying to control the alcoholic. The goal is to get the alcoholic to stop drinking. The pursuer is so aware that the alcoholic is ruining his/her life, that they become obsessed with taking care of the alcoholic to the extreme. The pursuer spends more time thinking about how to take care of the alcoholic than they do worrying about what it is they need themselves. The problem is, the more the enabler pursues the alcoholic, the more the alcoholic withdraws and begins to shut down.
On the surface enablers look like they are only doing what is right for the person they care about. But that would only be a smidgeon of the real story.
When we pay more attention to what others think than to what we think, the mirror reality of that, which is our inner truth is, we simply do not know what we think. In fact, we are so foreign to our own Selves, that we would prefer to busy ourselves taking care of someone else than to take care of our own needs.
Enablers have been programmed to believe that their worth is found in doing for others. Enablers were raised to worry more about what others think, want or need, than what they think, want or need. Enablers are those who live in fear of disappointing others, and who can easily anticipate the needs of others, all while having no real clue as to what it might be that may make them happy.
On a psychological level, enablers are looking for a reflection of Self in the validation of others. Their personal belief system is one that has been twisted through the generations. Never having been taught that they are enough, enablers chase that fleeting sense of Self in the reflections of validations drenched in the bitterness of martyrdom. Enablers do and do and do, until their hearts bleed, all in the name of love. But this is not authentic love. This is codependency. A game of cat and mouse.
Although enablers are very kind, empathetic and compassionate human beings, the truth is they are just as manipulating as the addict. Holding true to the Laws of Attraction which states; That which is liken to itself is drawn', enablers and addicts fit like a tailor made glove on a delicate hand.
Whenever we are trying to manipulate someone into doing for us what we believe they should do under the false premise, that others are responsible for our happiness, we cheapen our existence, and fail to rise to the level of Self Actualization that serves us as glorious human beings.
Addicts need help, but not from those who enable their dependency on others as well as chemicals. Addicts need to fall when they trip, and learn to get back up again of their own accord. Enablers need not hide their alcohol, follow them home from work, pay their credit card or cell phone bills, go through their emails, or stalk them on facebook. Instead, enablers need to stop seeking a pseudo sense of Self in the doing for others or in the excessive worrying for others.
The key to any successful and healthy relationship is to first master ones relationship with ones Self.
No Longer Happily Married, But Still Married
If you are no longer finding yourself happily married, but still married you will be finding it difficult not to continually find fault in your mate.
Our intimate relationship is the one relationship that mirrors to us our subconscious beliefs about ourselves and the world.
How we view our mate, very much reflects how we see ourselves.
If we no longer desire our mate, then you have lost interest in your own desires.
If you wish to ignore your mate, there is something inside of you you are neglecting.
If you are angry at your mate, there is something within you you are angry about.
If you no longer enjoy sex, you have stopped enjoying your own company.
If you are angry at your partner because he/she won't do act like you want them to act, then you are feeling controlled by your circumstances, and rather than start with changing yourself, you would rather have others change so that your existence is more tolerable...but it doesn't work that well...not well anyway...
If you have lost passion for your mate, you have lost passion for YOU...
If you are in an abusive relationship, then you abuse yourself, and for whatever reason see yourself as a victim.
If you are generally unhappy, irritable, and negative, chances are your self talk is unhappy, irritating and negative.
Uncover the subconscious beliefs that generate the thoughts you think, and detangle your minds self.
Our intimate relationship is the one relationship that mirrors to us our subconscious beliefs about ourselves and the world.
How we view our mate, very much reflects how we see ourselves.
If we no longer desire our mate, then you have lost interest in your own desires.
If you wish to ignore your mate, there is something inside of you you are neglecting.
If you are angry at your mate, there is something within you you are angry about.
If you no longer enjoy sex, you have stopped enjoying your own company.
If you are angry at your partner because he/she won't do act like you want them to act, then you are feeling controlled by your circumstances, and rather than start with changing yourself, you would rather have others change so that your existence is more tolerable...but it doesn't work that well...not well anyway...
If you have lost passion for your mate, you have lost passion for YOU...
If you are in an abusive relationship, then you abuse yourself, and for whatever reason see yourself as a victim.
If you are generally unhappy, irritable, and negative, chances are your self talk is unhappy, irritating and negative.
Uncover the subconscious beliefs that generate the thoughts you think, and detangle your minds self.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
You Are Not, Nor Ever Were A Victim
Dear Friend,
If you are reading my writing, and have been for quite some time, what you have read is actually a coming of my mind, or my reality.
Once I believed in the illusion of separateness. Once I believed that my parents, peers, and eventually husband, were those who were doing something "to me". Now I know better. Now I realize at a conscious level, that what I believe I expected, and thus projected onto those around me. Believing I was no good, or not enough, caused me to "expect" to have others treat me as if I was not enough, so therefore even if that was not a reality for others in my life, because it is what I believed, projected, and expected, it is what I experienced and ultimately created in my life.
There is no separateness. On a quantum level, we are all one. The idea of separateness is a complete illusion. Our experiences are based on what we believe on an unconscious level. These beliefs have been programmed since childhood and along the way we have picked up beliefs, notions and ideas from those who have come in and out of our lives.
In order for you to be happy, you must uncover your deep belief systems, pick them apart and dispose of those who lead you onto any path that is rooted in the idea of separateness or hate.
At your core, you are perfect. Happiness is found when you return to that. There is no other in this world that can satisfy you the way in which you truly need to be satisfied. There is no man, no woman, no child, no car, no home, no trip that can give you what you are truly in need of...The healing you must seek must be one of de-programming your unconscious.
If you believe you need a mans attention to feel good, that is a lie.
If you believe you need to be a certain weight to be good enough, that is a lie.
If you believe you need to have a certain amount of money in the bank to be happy, that is a lie.
If you believe you must die of sickness in order to die, that is a lie.
If you believe someone is doing something to you to make you uncomfortable, even that is a lie.
If you are in an uncomfortable relationship with someone, that is because you do not believe you are worthy of a loving one, which means you do not believe you are love. Or it may be that you do not believe the other is capable of loving you, or being kind...either way you will experience in the other what you believe of the other from within.
If you do not believe you are worthy or are love, then whenever you look out into your environment you will project what you feel onto others, so even if they are trying to love you, you will not be able to accept it. Instead you will expect not to see love through your projection of it from within your own self. Eventually you will be disappointed by those in your life and believe on a conscious level that the others failed you. But the truth will be that you created what you experienced in real time, and thus will complete your internal cycle 360 degrees...Your inner speaks to you, "I am not worthy" and then your outer proves it...as you experience others as treating you as you are not worthy.
If we were all to return to our truth, which is that we are enough, that we are love, that we are all connected to one life source, then the need to feel unworthiness, or old, or used up, or not enough, would fade.
But the collective mind of government, who strongly believes in money and power, prefer to have you be the distracted, self loathing, obese, reality tv obsessed, terrorist fearing, diseased beings that so many of us are.
Freedom comes when one begins to understand that what they believe they create.
Turn off your televisions, for they serve only to confuse you and keep you in a state of chaotic unconscious programming. Turn off your radio's, for they too serve only to depress you, and fill you with more fear. Stop reading your newspapers. But if you do decide to watch the television, or listen to the radio, or read the newspaper, do it with a discerning ear. Absorb only those things that serve to uplift you, and refuse to allow the fear that is being projected globally through the various forms of vibrational energies out there, root within you. Fear is a very dense vibrational space. Do not put your eyes upon statistics, ideas of terrorism, cancer, or disease, for all of these things cannot be experienced within your reality unless invited by thought and held in place by fear of it, and a belief that it is or one day may be a part of your experience here.
Instead begin loving. Begin loving you, your children, your spouse, your apartment, your bed, your bathroom, your toenails, your lips, and your soul. Allow that love vibration to grow so that when you look outside you train your brains eye to see only things that uplift you like the beauty in cloud formation, or the vibrant colors in flowers. Train your mind to look away from news and information that takes you out of harmonious alignment. When in conversation with others, do not participate when the conversation turns in a negative direction. Keep still to what vibration you are trying to maintain.
Decide right now to begin creating your own reality by choosing to believe your own thoughts. But know that no matter what beliefs you hold true, at your core, you are perfect, complete and a loving being.
If you are reading my writing, and have been for quite some time, what you have read is actually a coming of my mind, or my reality.
Once I believed in the illusion of separateness. Once I believed that my parents, peers, and eventually husband, were those who were doing something "to me". Now I know better. Now I realize at a conscious level, that what I believe I expected, and thus projected onto those around me. Believing I was no good, or not enough, caused me to "expect" to have others treat me as if I was not enough, so therefore even if that was not a reality for others in my life, because it is what I believed, projected, and expected, it is what I experienced and ultimately created in my life.
There is no separateness. On a quantum level, we are all one. The idea of separateness is a complete illusion. Our experiences are based on what we believe on an unconscious level. These beliefs have been programmed since childhood and along the way we have picked up beliefs, notions and ideas from those who have come in and out of our lives.
In order for you to be happy, you must uncover your deep belief systems, pick them apart and dispose of those who lead you onto any path that is rooted in the idea of separateness or hate.
At your core, you are perfect. Happiness is found when you return to that. There is no other in this world that can satisfy you the way in which you truly need to be satisfied. There is no man, no woman, no child, no car, no home, no trip that can give you what you are truly in need of...The healing you must seek must be one of de-programming your unconscious.
If you believe you need a mans attention to feel good, that is a lie.
If you believe you need to be a certain weight to be good enough, that is a lie.
If you believe you need to have a certain amount of money in the bank to be happy, that is a lie.
If you believe you must die of sickness in order to die, that is a lie.
If you believe someone is doing something to you to make you uncomfortable, even that is a lie.
If you are in an uncomfortable relationship with someone, that is because you do not believe you are worthy of a loving one, which means you do not believe you are love. Or it may be that you do not believe the other is capable of loving you, or being kind...either way you will experience in the other what you believe of the other from within.
If you do not believe you are worthy or are love, then whenever you look out into your environment you will project what you feel onto others, so even if they are trying to love you, you will not be able to accept it. Instead you will expect not to see love through your projection of it from within your own self. Eventually you will be disappointed by those in your life and believe on a conscious level that the others failed you. But the truth will be that you created what you experienced in real time, and thus will complete your internal cycle 360 degrees...Your inner speaks to you, "I am not worthy" and then your outer proves it...as you experience others as treating you as you are not worthy.
If we were all to return to our truth, which is that we are enough, that we are love, that we are all connected to one life source, then the need to feel unworthiness, or old, or used up, or not enough, would fade.
But the collective mind of government, who strongly believes in money and power, prefer to have you be the distracted, self loathing, obese, reality tv obsessed, terrorist fearing, diseased beings that so many of us are.
Freedom comes when one begins to understand that what they believe they create.
Turn off your televisions, for they serve only to confuse you and keep you in a state of chaotic unconscious programming. Turn off your radio's, for they too serve only to depress you, and fill you with more fear. Stop reading your newspapers. But if you do decide to watch the television, or listen to the radio, or read the newspaper, do it with a discerning ear. Absorb only those things that serve to uplift you, and refuse to allow the fear that is being projected globally through the various forms of vibrational energies out there, root within you. Fear is a very dense vibrational space. Do not put your eyes upon statistics, ideas of terrorism, cancer, or disease, for all of these things cannot be experienced within your reality unless invited by thought and held in place by fear of it, and a belief that it is or one day may be a part of your experience here.
Instead begin loving. Begin loving you, your children, your spouse, your apartment, your bed, your bathroom, your toenails, your lips, and your soul. Allow that love vibration to grow so that when you look outside you train your brains eye to see only things that uplift you like the beauty in cloud formation, or the vibrant colors in flowers. Train your mind to look away from news and information that takes you out of harmonious alignment. When in conversation with others, do not participate when the conversation turns in a negative direction. Keep still to what vibration you are trying to maintain.
Decide right now to begin creating your own reality by choosing to believe your own thoughts. But know that no matter what beliefs you hold true, at your core, you are perfect, complete and a loving being.
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