I Want To Kill Myself

Dear Lisa,

I read your blogs, and they seem so matter of fact, as if someone is not happy, then it is their fault. I feel like you blame the victim for all their problems, and I don't think that is fair. Sometimes my life is so hard I just want to kill myself. Reading your blog, I think is supposed to make me feel better. Sometimes it does, but then others it seems like I will never get past some of the things that have happened to me in my life. Can you help me?

Dear I Can't Get Past My Past,

Darling, I hear you. I would first like to say, thank you for your honesty. I can feel your pain through your words. You are dripping in sorrow. I have been where you are. It is dark. It is lonely. It is as if a tremendous war is raging inside your mind, and only you know the war is happening. You look around and see others laughing, and you think, "What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I laugh? Why can't I just be free-free of these daunting thoughts that keep playing over and over in my mind?"

There is so much I would like to explain, and in detail. I hope I am able to break down for you what is happening in your mind chemically, psychologically, emotionally as well as scientifically. Everything you are experiencing is normal for someone who thinks as you do. In my opinion, much of what we as a society believe in, we have been conditioned to believe in, but that doesn't make it real.

Darling, when you came into this world you were perfect. In you still exists that perfection. But because you were born to two flawed people, as we all were, you no doubt have been infected with ideas that have pulled you out of alignment from your true nature. Each being born has the innate ability to do and be whatever he/she wishes to be. The problem in our thinking occurs when we are sadly infected by the beliefs of those who are raising us. If our parents are depressed, alcoholics, addicts, worriers, compulsive, overly controlling, hovering, liars, manipulators, cheaters, aggressive or go through life appearing to be helpless, we cannot help but absorb the equivalent of that energy and thus beliefs and behaviors.

As children we are open books absorbing the energies of those around us. We cannot help it. We are more energy and free space than we are material beings made of matter. But yet, we are conditioned to believe that what we see in the world that appears in the material realm, is more important than what we feel internally. In obvious as well as not so obvious ways, many of us have been taught to worry more about what others think about us than what we think about ourselves, or we have been taught to simply worry for the sake of worrying.

You must ask yourself if you were ever taught to laugh, to be silly, to poke fun at yourself, to embrace your imperfections, to giggle when it rains, to brush negative people away, or to walk through life seeking the good. If not, it is no wonder you only see bad.

When parents worry about appearing perfect, they teach us to worry about 'not appearing' perfect to others. So when our day doesn't go quite as well as we'd like, we freak out and panic, worrying what's wrong with us. When our parents worry more about making money than they do about what's going on with us internally, they teach us to put our faith into something material, (which can be lost at anytime) opposed to teaching us to believe in our strength to handle any challenge that might come our way. When our parents talk of life being so hard, we believe them, and thus life becomes hard. When our parents speak of suicide, we absorb that depressed energy and too begin to believe in despair rather than hope. When our parents give off the vibration of anger, yet they try to appear happy, they teach us to believe that illusions are more valuable than truth.

When you are confused you get stuck in your head. One thought then attracts a similar thought to support the first confused thought. Take a lifetime of confused thoughts and add to it the negative energy that is created through confusion, and you can see how a life can easily become not worth living. Confusion, negativity, lack of movement, and a lack of positive, reassuring, self love, leaves a mind as well as a soul gasping for emotional air.

One negative thought simply attracts to it another negative thought. If you think negatively, it is probably the result of the impressions you have absorbed along your life's path that have been laid out for you by the caretakers in your life.

If you need to 'blame' someone or something, blame your conditioning, but not your parents. They did the best they could. If they had known better, they would have done better.

If you see yourself as a victim, darling, then you will behave like a victim. If you interpret that as me blaming you for your pain, all I can do is offer you my regrets that that is the way you choose to interpret my message.

The truth is, if you ponder long enough on one positive thought, that positive thought will attract to it another positive thought. Imagine an entire day immersed in positive thoughts. Imagine the flowers you'd notice, or the babies smiles you'd see, or how sweet the air would smell if you did.

Chemically when you choose to think positively you alter your brains chemistry. You literally secrete endorphins that light up your brain, which ultimately helps to lift the fog of depression.

If there are trauma's in your life you are locking down inside of you, then you need to release those dragons so they cannot make a fuss inside you anymore. If you have pain you are carrying around on your shoulders like a monkey on your back, you need to set that monkey down so he can walk back into the jungle it came from. If you are tired of the static noise in your mind, you need to retune the radio station you listen to, and listen only to the soothing part of you.

When I was twelve years old, there were so many dragons in my head, monkeys on my back, and noise in my skin, that all I wanted to do was die. I wanted to die so badly, that I had a gun to my head. I know this dark place of which you speak.

But thankfully for me I heard a voice. And that voice said, "Lisa put down that gun. One day you will show them."

As I stood there stunned staring at my reflection in my mothers bedroom mirror with my fathers pistol to my head, another thought rushed in immediately after that one, and then another. These thoughts were all positive. They weren't rose colored glasses positive, but they were thoughts that were just a little bit healthier than those that were prompting me to kill my self.

Thoughts like, "What will happen to your brother and sister if you kill yourself?" "What will happen to your parents, if you kill yourself/", "What pain will you cause your family by ending your own?"...And "If you kill yourself, you will be dead, and you won't be around to hear those who bullied you say they are sorry for being so cruel to you."

What I realized is that all my mind did was reach for a thought that was just a little bit healthier than the first truly dark one. Then little by little my thoughts reached further up the emotional chain.

My life did not improve over night. In fact my life got a hell of a lot worse, but what changed was my mind. I made a decision at the age of 12 that one day I would help make the world a better place while I was here, in any and every way I could.

I get it now, so you when you read my blog, you must understand you are reading the work of a woman who has gone through hell to get where she is. There is an easier way to get where I am, and that is what my writings are about. It is not necessary to claw your way to positive thinking, unless that is what you believe. I write the words I wish were there for me when I was going through the craziness that was my childhood programming. The internet is a gift. It is a gift I use to help me bestow wisdom on others I may never know. It is my way of giving thanks to the universe that supports me in every way, as long as I choose to see that.

Everyday I search the internet for inspiration and motivation. I still journal everyday and deliberately seek that which pleases me and I turn away from that which does not please me. It is an effort, but so worth it.

Dear friend, I do not see myself as a victim. I see myself as a Champion. And that has made all the difference.

How do you see your self?

How do you want to see your self?

Are you willing to let go of the old so you can experience the new?

Do you believe your negative thoughts and victim mentality is simply what you have been conditioned to believe you are through the thoughts, attitudes and opinions of others?

Do you believe you can create a new mind?

Know what you think, then decide what you want to think, and the world becomes your playground.

How To Get Past This Present Negative Reality

Scientists are now finally coming to the brave understanding that alternate universes exist.

In fact, the current reality you are living is a fraction of who and what you are, and what you are capable of.

Your creative mind is as useful, and as important as your ability to speak, for in your mind, you can be wherever, whomever and whatever you can imagine. Your creative self is infinite.

To not IMAGINE yourself to be as your all too short dreams can imagine you to be, is to keep fortunes buried in your backyard.

You are fat, because you do not IMAGINE your self thin. You are fat, because everywhere you look society reminds you that you are, through television ads, radio commercials and so on.

You are poor, because you have been conditioned to believe you are not supposed to be rich. Read the paper, listen to the radio or watch the news...what is the programming you are receiving daily?

If you can imagine it, it exists somewhere out there...

But if all you do is stay stuck, and do not IMAGINE your life any better, you will stay stuck.

If you want to be free in physical time, you first must free your mind from what is...

IMAGINE, daydream, envision your self doing and being exactly what, how and where you want to be.

Get out of the here and the now...and pull your thoughts higher...

Please write back to me and tell me how your life has changed when you finally open your mind to your infinite possibility...

Positive/Negative People Test

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How To Test If Others Are Good or Bad For Me

In all of us are beliefs.

Some of these beliefs are conscious, but most of them are unconscious.

Do you enjoy the thoughts that swirl about in your head?

Do you enjoy your behaviors?

Do you love your Self?

If you are like so many young women and men today, you do not enjoy most of the B/S that is swirling about in your head, nor do you enjoy the obsessive compulsive things you do to get your mind to shift from focusing on the negative thoughts that are in your head...

WTF?

Is that where you are? Are you in that place-the WTF place?

If you are, you are not alone....

Stop...listen to this wise woman who has spent far too many years in that WTF place.

I wanted everyone to like me, to accept me, to tell me I was good enough, and it never showed up in quite the way I needed it to, to fill that WTF place up in my head.

Why???

I had friends. I had a decent job. I was attractive. I had a family and my dog loved me.

WTF...why was I so displeased with me?

The problem was, what was wrong could not be fixed by anyone or anything on the outside...DUH...I was looking for others to fix something they couldn't...But stubborn, pig headed me, kept insisting others love me enough to make this WTF feeling go away...

Okay, so WTF...how did I get my mind from way over there in psycho land where I was not only frustrating myself, but everyone around me...to this kick ass, bissful, I love me no matter what anyone else thinks of me, place???

The journey was long, but so worth the trip.

I first had to uncover what it was I believed. My beliefs were ruling my world and keeping me stuck.

I believed everyone had to like me...WRONG...

I believed everyone had to think I was pretty...WRONG...

I believed if I was good enough others would naturally treat me well...WRONG...

I believed if I loved someone they had to love me back...WRONG...

I believed I was only good enough if someone else told me so...WRONG...

I believed if I was good to someone, they had to be just as good back to me, and if they didn't that meant something was wrong with me...WRONG...

I believed that if my relationship wasn't turning out well, that it was all my fault, and that if I was good, I'd hang in there...WRONG...

I believed it was normal to fight in a relationship...WRONG...

I believed that even when I was treated poorly, I probably did something to deserve it, and I was supposed to stay...WRONG...

I believed if I loved someone, I hung in there no matter what...WRONG...

I believed being alone was a terrible thing...WRONG...

I believed that I had to be pretty, thin, and smart for others to like me...WRONG...

I believed that if someone loved me, they were supposed to be attached to my hip, and validate me always (eek..needy bitch I was..lol)...WRONG...


HOLY CRAP...

When I finally stopped whining about how miserable I was, and started uncovering what beliefs were governing my thinking, I began to understand that I was on a collision course...and I was the cause of all my WTF thinking...

There was no way a girl like me, with thoughts like these was not going to attract some piece of s---...of a man.

I was literally putting my sense of self in someone else's hands.

I was literally saying, "I will love you so you love me back, because I don't know how to love myself. I will ATTACH my needy ass self to you, and drown you with affection, not because you need it you loser, but because I believe if that I do, you MUST do what I want you to do, which is to make this WTF feeling go away...I am demanding you to fill this WTF place in me, so I can stop these WTF feelings in my head. And even though you will probably take advantage of my neediness, treat me like dog sh-- on your shoe, push me away, and only show affection when you want to get laid, I am gonna hang in there...because that's what I BELIEVE I should do."

WTF? Really, I mean WTF?

Its no mystery why I was so miserable...

So I figured it all out. I didn't think I was good enough because my mother's love wasn't all that reassuring...

I was taught to care more about what others thought about me than what I thought about me...and so I picked up all these negative beliefs along my life's path.

But now I have learned that unless I own my power, and stop giving my sense of self over to dysfunctional, self absorbed others, ( and unfortunately sometimes this includes our parents, siblings, best friends, co workers, and husbands ), I will be destined to live the remainder of my life on planet WTF.

WTF is not necessary.

If you are unhappy and the people in your life are bringing you down, GET RID OF THEM, and start paying attention to how you FEEL, when you are around people.

People that are GOOD for you will make you FEEL secure, warm, positive, and cared for.

Your energy literally goes up when you are around someone who is good for you, and down when you are slamming yourself into someone who is NOT good for you...

Check out the video above. Want to test your energy to see if those in your life are good for you or bad for you? Do the above muscle test while sitting next to your brother, sister, boyfriend, girlfriend, boss, mother, father or even around alcohol.

Anything or anyone that is not good for you, will show up in your energy field...

If you are on planet WTF, it is because YOU are not where you belong. YOU are gravitating towards things and others that are weighing you down...

How To Stop Needing To Be Needed

For many chaos is a way of life. It is normal to obsess about what others are doing, what they are thinking, buyings, what kind of car they are driving, or who they are having sex with and so on. It is so much the norm, that the world at large has forgotten to mind their own damn business.

And that is the root of the problem.

When we are paying more attention to what others think, feel and are doing, we disconnect ourselves from our true source.

When we are raised by mothers or fathers who are codependent and do not show us how to love ourselves or mirror for us healthy, nurturing, back and forth male to female relationships, we grow very much aware of this tremendous void that lives within us. We watch our caretakers look outside for this sense of fulfillment, and thus so we learn to do the same.

The void that lives within our parents, is not a void we can see, but it is a void we can feel. We don't know why we feel so disconnected from ourselves as children, we just know we do. We don't know why we feel so anxious as children, we just know we don't feel secure. The problem is, our brains tell us everything 'looks' physically fine, and thus our brain continues to reason that things should be fine. But on an emotional level, or on the level we can tune into as a vibration, we are 'feeling' that things really are not 'fine'. The gap between what we see in our 'physical or manifested' world is out of alignment with what we sense in our 'non physical, emotional' world which is felt as a vibration of disconnect.

As we go out into the world, it is difficult for us to imagine that that void is not supposed to be filled by something outside of us. We think, food, sex, drugs, alcohol, or the love of another will fill that space up that is so deep and so dark.

As years pass the void never seems to fill up. Our relationships eventually stop exciting us. We grow tired of looking for the other to fill that void that has not been able to be filled by the other. We then blame the other for not being able to hold our attention, or for not being able to fulfill our needs. Or the drama has escalated to such a degree, that we simply do not know how not to not see what we do not want to see in our partners. We are so disconnected to the harmony that is supposed to be within ourselves, we settle for the distraction of chaos, break up, make up, highs, lows, addiction, and drama. It is like a wheel we cannot seem to jump off of.

Many times we settle for being needed. We pick up others along our life's path that we see as wounded. We tell ourselves that fixing someone else will inevitably lead to satisfaction, because unconsciously we believe that if we fix this someone else, they will in turn love us forever and never leave us. The feeling or the vibration is, "If I fix you, you will have to owe me forever for fixing you. You will validate me, because I cannot validate myself. You will show me how good I am, in the reflection of how well I can fix you. In turn, the good I see in you, will show me how good I am, because my eyes still look outside of me for validation."

The void in you can only attract more of a void. What you transmit emotionally or through your vibration, is a feeling of emptiness. Your loving then, can only return more of the same.

If you want to stop needing to feel needed, you are going to have to learn to self satisfy, self love, self appreciate, self gratify and above all other things self love.

If you have been wounded by the dogma of your religions, know that self love is not a form of ugly selfishness.

Self love is equivalent to loving the Christ, the Buddha, the Abraham or the Mohammed in you.

Self love is learning to believe that everything about you is connected to source, God, the Universe, or whatever the higher power that created you is referred to by you. Sleeping well, non drugging, removing yourself from negative others, places and influences, long hot baths, meditation, a bouquet of flowers, a peaceful stroll through a fragrant park, these are not the things of selfishness. They are the way to a true life.

If you want to know how to stop needing to be needed, practice the art of 'loving selfishness'. Day by day, thought by thought, it gets better.

If You Are Not Happy

If you are not happy, you are doing something wrong.

How To See The Good In Any Bad

If I could bring you back in time, to the point of your physical creation, and I could somehow make you feel what it was your tiny soul felt while wading in the miraculous fluid that filled your mothers womb, what you would remember is an intense bliss. In every cell of your being, you would have known life was good, that you were good, and that nothing else could have mattered.

If I could bring you back in time, to the point of your physical birth, and I could somehow make you remember how your tiny soul felt, while being swaddled in your mothers arms, what you would remember is a feeling of complete wholeness and blissfulness. In every cell of your being you would have known that the only thing that mattered was this good feeling.

If when things went wrong in your life today, I could somehow take you back in time, to the point of your physical creation or the point of your physical birth, and I could somehow get you to see whatever bad you were experiencing now, through the eyes of those blissful moments in time, the bad would disintegrate like a grain of sugar in a hot cup of tea.

If you could learn to see your life today through the non physical eyes of your source, there would be very little you could label as bad, not good, ugly, or frustrating. When you learn to remember the good that created you, and when remember how blissful your beginning was, you allow yourself to be freed of the unnecessary pain that can only be born out of pure physical.

My friend, the only time it is possible to feel pain, to see bad, or to experience negative emotion is when we are disconnected from the non-physical perfect source created being that we are. We are non-physical, vibrational beings first, before we are physical beings. We think before we act, which is to say we are in thought (non-physical) before we are in action (physical).

We too were non-physical beings (source) before we were physical beings (human). Nothing else makes sense.

Before anything can ever be, it first must be a vibration. If it were possible for you to see things through the eyes of creation, it would be impossible to not see the good in all things, including what most unawakened minds would consider bad things. If humans see bad at all, it is because they have forgotten their true nature. Our true nature is bliss.

How To Be Happy Now

In so many ways we tell ourselves we are not enough. We find ourselves wishing for more, and often those feelings leave us feeling helpless, hopeless, or dissatisfied.

My prayer for you is that in those moments when you are feeling down and out, close your eyes, and visualize all the wonderful things that are in your life that are right right now.

You are perfect right where you are. Ten minutes of soothing music, with your mind active with visions of those things and those people you love, will help clear negativity from you.

On this day, I feel like the luckiest woman alive. I have so much to be grateful for, and sometimes I feel like wanting more is wrong. But it is not, as long as I remember to love and show deep appreciation for where it is I am.

How Can I Make A Man Fall In Love With Me

Ayyayyyyyyyyyyyaaaaaaa........

Yes, believe it or not, I have been asked this question too. "Lisa how can I make any man fall in love with me?"

It seems like a silly question, but in the juice of it is a woman who is still seeking outside of herself the acceptance she should be seeking within.

For any woman, or man for that matter to ask or to contemplate such a question is to imply that the asker of the question is not in love with their own Self.

If the thinker of such a question is under the delusion that there is some hokey pokey mumbo jumbo answer to this idea, then it is safe to presume the asker is one who seeks many answers to many questions outside of him/her Self. Therefore the thinker will, unless a conscious shift is made, perpetually seek outside of their own Self for happiness. This will leave the thinker frustrated, exhausted, and in search of, rather than an owning of ones own Self, love and happiness. And the thinker will ultimately blame those outside of him/her own Self for the lack of love they feel within.

Am I making sense here folks???

But for the hell of it, I am going to answer the question posed.

If you want a man, or a woman to fall in love with you, you first must fall in love with your Self.

Think law of attraction.

Non physical, which is the "feelings and or thoughts" you feel within you, must manifest in the physical, or in your time space reality.

If you find love right where you are within you, and begin by respecting your body through exercise and nutrition, and if you respect your mind through meditation, reading or writing, and if you absorb your Self with things and interests that delight you, love must show up in your physical reality.

But if you disrespect your body by polluting it with excessive amounts of fat and sugar, and if you dishonor your mind by giving thought to ideas of anger, frustration, victim-hood and blame, and if you do not seek to find things in your environment that delight you on the inside,then please do not muddy the waters any further by expecting anything but a partner that also pollutes and disrespects his/her body, plays the victim, and has no outside interests aside from looking to you to make him/her happy.

Whatever amount of love you now hold for your Self, will draw to you a partner that can only love you that much. Your beliefs of your Self, magnetically draw to you the vibrational match of partners.

If you are in a chaotic time in your life right now, you will attract a partner of chaotic energy. If you are wanting a distraction, then your partner will be so confusing to you, you will find yourself distracted by their chaotic beliefs, thinking and behaviors.

If you are unhappy with you, your partner will do things that reinforce that energy you feel within you. If you dishonor your own Self, expect your partner to dishonor you...There are no victims here, only co-creators.

When you want more, your belief in more must increase. And when your wants build enough energy so that they can become unconscious beliefs, you then begin attracting partners that reflect those new beliefs back to you. It can be no other way.

Keep playing the victim, keep blaming others, and expect others to continually victimize you while you stand there pointing your finger at the world, drawing your last breath, "Look what they've done to me"...

Gimmee a break...

So unless you are content with the love that is showing up in your partner, it is time to start loving you...and time to stop seeking love of Self.

Why Do Men Cheat

I have never been asked one question as often as I have this one.

"Lisa, tell me. In your opinion why do men cheat?"

If you read between the lines, what is being revealed in this question is really nothing more than one woman's, or many women's expectation of men. Sadly we live in a culture that seems to presume it is impossible for men NOT to cheat. It is as if in many ways, society cannot separate man from beast. We can send men to the moon, and transmit words through airwaves, but we can't seem to raise the bar on man's ability to control his primal impulse. It is as if because men secrete testosterone, they are given a pass or an excuse for not being able to keep their penis's in their pants.

The truth is, what a man thinks he is, he is. If a man believes he cannot not cheat, this man will likely cheat. His beliefs will attract thoughts, and situations that will reinforce that belief.

If on the other hand, this man uses his complete conscious mind, and chooses to confront that old societal belief, he can change that belief. Men can shove themselves into one vat, and draw parallels between themselves and silver back gorilla's, or they can expect more from themselves instead. Either way, the law of attraction will be at play.

As a man thinks, so shall he become. And thinking by the way, is a choice.

Females also play a role in why men cheat or why they seem to find themselves in relationships with men that cheat.

Women will tell me they never expected their spouse to cheat. They will claim they were shocked to discover their spouses were being unfaithful. But after sitting and talking to them more openly it is usually revealed that on various levels the women did not trust their spouses.
Perhaps it had to do with money, or where their spouses really were when they said they were working late, or how their mates reacted when an attractive woman entered a room, but in every case the women I spoke to could trace back a moment in time when they found themselves wrestling with feelings of trust when it came to the men in their lives.

This observation in no way is meant to imply that women cause their spouses to cheat. This article is however meant to stir ones thinking about what it is they THINK, about their mate, and more importantly what they think about themselves.

If at anytime a person ignores, denies or suppresses feelings or thoughts that question their trust in another, this disowning will eventually, as it gets played out lead to more destructive circumstances in the relationship, like an affair.

It is difficult for the unconscious and lacking self aware mind to imagine that she may have been part of the co-creating that manifested such circumstances in her marriage. This is not to imply blame on one spouse for the lack of integrity of the other. But the reality is, if there is a lack of integrity in the mind, there will be a lack of integrity in the physical. The non physical, always matches the physical.

Whether it is a lack of personal integrity of the man, or a lack of self respect in the woman, either road can only lead to destruction.

What I would like my readers to contemplate is deeper thinking, and thus embrace a broader view of the situation.

Imagine you are the woman who has been cheated on. Imagine it is your husband who exhibited complete disregard and or integrity for your feelings. Now ask your Self, from an observers vantage point, detached from anger, how many times you disregarded or showed a lack of integrity for your own feelings or worth in relation to your spouse. How often did you disown that gut feeling that made you feel he was lying to you? How often did you deny your right to your own feelings, and instead pretended like what you needed didn't matter? How often did your instincts tell you something was wrong and instead of confronting them, you ignored them?

If you tolerate a disowning of your own Self within the flesh that you are, and if you invite those into your life that show no respect for you, or your feelings, you cannot expect your daily life to reveal or manifest anything less.

Okay, so you wanna know why men cheat. Here it goes.

Some men cheat because they believe it is impossible for a man not to cheat. Some men cheat because they get bored with their wives and the routine of marriage. Some men cheat because they are insecure and need constant ego gratification from outside themselves. Some men cheat because they aren't happy unless they are feeling like they are getting away with something they shouldn't. Some men cheat because they fear aging and think a newer piece of ass means they aren't getting older. Some men cheat because there is a slut in the room. Some men cheat because its a bachelor party and the hookers are already paid for, and hey what guy is going to rat out another guy after he's already been with one of the hookers. Some guys cheat because the distraction of the affair makes their day go by faster. But all men who cheat, don't believe they cannot NOT cheat...what a man thinks he is...he is...

Ladies, you lovely, nurturing, splendid peace seeking creatures that you are, here is my best advice to you...

Love your Self as if you were the only person left on this planet. Listen to music that gives you thrill bumps. Buy your own bouquets of flowers. Pick careers that fulfill you. Choose relationships that lift you rather than drain you. Learn to dance in the rain. Refuse to allow anger, blame, or regret to spend one more second in your body longer than necessary. Release any negative emotion as if they were helium filled balloons being whisked away by the sky. Spend time alone, without the television, radio, cell phone or Ipod, and like it. Meditate on things that make you smile, and wave at every tiny baby you see, because all that baby sees is the perfect smiling creature that you are. Revel in the knowing that you are a woman, a creator, and a maker of life. Know your own mind, and respect the guidance that comes from within. If you feel like enough is enough, then it is. Learn to walk away when necessary, and when its necessary to stay. Turn your eyes inward, and stop seeking validation from others. Know that a partnership is a gift, but if your partner doesn't see the gift that you are, you are better off single giving gifts to your Self.

When you have finally learned to love the magnificent being that you are, you will then attract to you a mate who also loves the magnificent being he is. He will see in you a reflection of his perfect Self. Perfect love of Self casts out all fear. When you learn to love your Self fearlessly, then and only then can you expect for a perfect love to manifest in your reality.

Ladies what you think you are, you are...

Peace,joy and love to you all...

Lisa