Where there is love, there can be no fear. There can be no war. There can be no hate.
Deepak Chopra has been quoted, "Love is being unable to hurt or be hurt".
The highest form of intelligence is knowing who we are. The most valuable knowledge is knowledge of thy self. If we do not know who we are, then who do we think we are?
The world is in a rush, but where is everyone going?
The world wants peace, but they chase something material.
Peace is a state of being; a spiritual state of being. So why do minds assume a thing, a piece of jewelry or, a home can bring them peace?
The key to happiness is in "being". It is in the silence of the consciousness. It is in the stillness of the mind. It is in the letting go of programmed thoughts.
My truth is your truth. At our core, we are all connected to the same life force that created the stars, the moon and the oceans. The same life force that designed sea horses, lions, and peacocks, created you. The same life force that churns the seas, and blankets the earth in warmth, created us all. Nothing separates us but illusions.
Profit, greed and lust for materialism has exploited the idea of separation between races, nations, and religions. But nothing, no war or natural disaster could ever destroy truth. Truth just is.
When we think of ourselves as separate from one another, we divide ourselves from the whole in our minds. In that divide, fear is born, anger is triggered, and peace is lost.
But when the mind begins to heal, the divide lessens, and an appreciation for humanity begins to blossom.
Not everyone is open to truth. Some people are blocked and are unable to embrace the concepts of unity. I leave them in the hands of my creator. For everyone else, who wants to be happy, and is open to learn from a soul who has actually found happiness, I write, I speak, I lead by example.
Love is in us all. When we connect to the fact that who we are is connected to God, and to the oceans, and to the mountains, and to the skies, it is impossible not to feel overwhelmed with joy.
What has been healed, is the divide that had us believing in separateness.
We are part of the whole. We are part of the earth, the skies, and one another.
When the divide of separateness begins to heal in our minds, so too does anxiety, depression, fear, anger and unnecessary guilt.
When we realize that happiness is an option for all, we begin to take less responsibility for others happiness, and begin enjoying our own a little more.
When we fully understand that it is only by way of example that we can ever hope of changing another, we learn to embody joy, by laughing more loudly, feeling more deeply, and loving more consciously.
The universal truth is, happiness is in us all. But first we must learn to have faith in this truth, and begin self reflecting, self contemplating, and self analyzing our own patterns of thoughts so that we can throw out what is of the world, and what is of God.
God says, " Be in the world, not of the world"......
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Saturday, June 26, 2010
Learning to Mother Ourselves
Who we believe we are psychologically, determines our fate.
Who we are, and where we are going, is rooted in "who we think we are".
Opinions of our selves, that were formed when we were children lay the ground work for what kind of adult we will become.
If I was told consistently, as well as treated as if I was loved, then my opinion of myself becomes a positive experience. If what has been reflected back into my psychological blueprint is love, then as life unfolded, my growing would have been well lubricated by the positivity that existed in my soul.
But, if instead I or you, were ignored, abandoned, verbally, emotionally,physically or sexually abused, what was reflected back to us, was devoid of love. When "no love" is reflected back into our impressionable psychological foundation, then who we are cannot be whole.
Love, authentic love, is the only ingredient that could ever lay a psychological foundation strong enough to sustain a life lived, with all its ups and downs, in a harmonious way.
What most people fail to realize with newborns is, that as their bones and skin are growing, so to is their mental image of themselves.
If a newborn perceives its environment as harsh due to parental neglect played out in a chaotic house that included lots of shouting, crying, and rough handling; a home that was never quiet, peaceful, or calm, the newborn begins laying down an impression of his/her environment that sends signals to the brain telling it that they are in danger. Stress glands get activated early on, which reinforces what the instincts of the child has already perceived from its environment through negative energy.
If children do not enter this world wrapped in peace, and embraced with love, they develop psychological impressions that hinder them for life. As adults, we wonder "why do I feel so negative? why do I always feel like something bad is going to happen? why can't I be happy?", and we rarely stop to wonder if we ever really were peaceful, or happy, or contented.
We all tend to make the mistake of thinking that newborns "know nothing". The notion is absurd. Infants know everything.
Newborns know more about their environments than the adults do who are sharing the space with them. If newborns had the cognitive ability to verbalize what they "felt", they could tell you whether or not their home was well or sick. They could tell you, just by the way an individual held them, if that person was peaceful or neurotic. They could tell you, merely by studying a face, whether or not that person was trustworthy or unworthy of trust.
What senses are more valuable than these?
As the newborn grows, ever supposed wise adults in their lives tell them, "You shouldn't think that-you shouldn't say that-you're going to hurt her feelings if you say that-go kiss Uncle Joe he misses you..." and so on,
We adults teach our children to disown what was God given, which is their 6th sense for the sake of conformity; for the sake of not having the opinionated kid; for the sake of wanting our child to be popular and well liked by teachers. What we reflect back to our children often times is so void of love and so riddled with fear, it is no wonder the world is run on Prozac.
The only cure to any disease, is love...But all love, must start with self love. If you love from a bridge in your mind that tells you you are only good enough if you love enough, then what you call love is unauthentic.
If you love from a perch in your mind that implies that your worth can only be measured by how worthy someone else tells you you are, then what you call love, is not love at all. It is a delusion of your own mind manifested by the blueprints that were laid in your mind as you pulled information from your environment as you grew.
Want to paddle out of this storm that has become the chaos in your life?
Then start by loving your self. Begin to lay new ground work by seeing your old programming for what it is; hogwash.
If you were not reflected love, then stand in a mirror and tell your self all the things you should have heard from your mother when you were a small child.
Repeat over and over "you are enough-you are good-you are smart-I love you-I will take care of you-I will never leave you".
In your own mind replace negative old self talk patterns with positive good ones purposefully. RAISE YOUR LEVEL OF AWARENESS and begin mothering your self the way you were supposed to be mothered as a child. Reflect all the love you missed out on back to you...
This is the route to joy.
Who we are, and where we are going, is rooted in "who we think we are".
Opinions of our selves, that were formed when we were children lay the ground work for what kind of adult we will become.
If I was told consistently, as well as treated as if I was loved, then my opinion of myself becomes a positive experience. If what has been reflected back into my psychological blueprint is love, then as life unfolded, my growing would have been well lubricated by the positivity that existed in my soul.
But, if instead I or you, were ignored, abandoned, verbally, emotionally,physically or sexually abused, what was reflected back to us, was devoid of love. When "no love" is reflected back into our impressionable psychological foundation, then who we are cannot be whole.
Love, authentic love, is the only ingredient that could ever lay a psychological foundation strong enough to sustain a life lived, with all its ups and downs, in a harmonious way.
What most people fail to realize with newborns is, that as their bones and skin are growing, so to is their mental image of themselves.
If a newborn perceives its environment as harsh due to parental neglect played out in a chaotic house that included lots of shouting, crying, and rough handling; a home that was never quiet, peaceful, or calm, the newborn begins laying down an impression of his/her environment that sends signals to the brain telling it that they are in danger. Stress glands get activated early on, which reinforces what the instincts of the child has already perceived from its environment through negative energy.
If children do not enter this world wrapped in peace, and embraced with love, they develop psychological impressions that hinder them for life. As adults, we wonder "why do I feel so negative? why do I always feel like something bad is going to happen? why can't I be happy?", and we rarely stop to wonder if we ever really were peaceful, or happy, or contented.
We all tend to make the mistake of thinking that newborns "know nothing". The notion is absurd. Infants know everything.
Newborns know more about their environments than the adults do who are sharing the space with them. If newborns had the cognitive ability to verbalize what they "felt", they could tell you whether or not their home was well or sick. They could tell you, just by the way an individual held them, if that person was peaceful or neurotic. They could tell you, merely by studying a face, whether or not that person was trustworthy or unworthy of trust.
What senses are more valuable than these?
As the newborn grows, ever supposed wise adults in their lives tell them, "You shouldn't think that-you shouldn't say that-you're going to hurt her feelings if you say that-go kiss Uncle Joe he misses you..." and so on,
We adults teach our children to disown what was God given, which is their 6th sense for the sake of conformity; for the sake of not having the opinionated kid; for the sake of wanting our child to be popular and well liked by teachers. What we reflect back to our children often times is so void of love and so riddled with fear, it is no wonder the world is run on Prozac.
The only cure to any disease, is love...But all love, must start with self love. If you love from a bridge in your mind that tells you you are only good enough if you love enough, then what you call love is unauthentic.
If you love from a perch in your mind that implies that your worth can only be measured by how worthy someone else tells you you are, then what you call love, is not love at all. It is a delusion of your own mind manifested by the blueprints that were laid in your mind as you pulled information from your environment as you grew.
Want to paddle out of this storm that has become the chaos in your life?
Then start by loving your self. Begin to lay new ground work by seeing your old programming for what it is; hogwash.
If you were not reflected love, then stand in a mirror and tell your self all the things you should have heard from your mother when you were a small child.
Repeat over and over "you are enough-you are good-you are smart-I love you-I will take care of you-I will never leave you".
In your own mind replace negative old self talk patterns with positive good ones purposefully. RAISE YOUR LEVEL OF AWARENESS and begin mothering your self the way you were supposed to be mothered as a child. Reflect all the love you missed out on back to you...
This is the route to joy.
Thursday, June 3, 2010
The Addiction To Others
It is easy to spot addiction when it is an addiction to a "thing", like marijuana, cocaine, alcohol, or shopping. But what happens when what we are addicted are our feelings about other people?
It is possible to crave the attention, company and or approval of others.
It is possible for a mother to be addicted to pleasing her children.
It is possible for a man to be addicted to feeling like he owns his woman.
It is possible to be addicted to fearing what others think about you.
A dear client of mine and I were training just yesterday. She has every physical "thing" any woman could want to make her happy. She lives in a beautiful home adorned with crown molding, tapestries, and custom woodworking. In her closet, hangs designer bags, shoes and clothes. Her husband actually adores her, and tells her often how much it is he feels as he does. In fact, he loves her more today than the day he married her.
And yet, this beautiful, 170 pound woman, refuses to be happy.
As we spoke, and her heart spilled out with negative emotions, about herself, and her extended family, I felt moved by the spirit of God to ask, "So, darling if you lost 20 pounds, what would you complain about then? If you were thinner, and your family had less to point their critical fingers at, would you then be happy with all there is in your life to be happy about? If your clothes were labeled a size 10 rather than a 14, would that allow you to open your eyes and appreciate all of God's blessings in your life right here, and right now?"
She didn't know what to say.
With love in my heart I told my client that I believed that deep down, she was happy, but because she has been made to feel guilty all her life for the "things" she has, her wounded psyche, will not allow her to embrace the joy that comes from having the kind of life that she has.
If she embraces the joy, then her life really becomes that wonderful, and she might then have to let go of what she fears other people might think of her.
In her mind, if she stays overweight, then people won't be as envious of her and her lifestyle. So rather than be completely hated for having a wonderful husband and outrageous home, she sabotages her happiness because of her addiction to fearing what others think of her.
As long as she stays overweight, and has a battle to fight in her mind, then the anxiety that is showing up because of her fear of happiness, gets to go somewhere...
The problem is, because she never faces the real issue, the is staying stuck inside a huge circle of wrinkled loops of dysfunctional thought processes.
She doesn't stay overweight because she can't lose weight...she stays overweight for the sake of others.
She fears being the woman that has it all...including the house, the great guy, and the killer body...People hate that girl, and my client doesn't want to be her...or deal with the ugliness that comes from insecure others.
What she needs to see is her fear. What she needs to see is how she is losing her life day by day, to the insane need and desire to control what other people think of her...
It is her wanting to control her anxiety about her fear of being happy at the root, that is being manifested through her need to also control how and what others think of her...
The only way out of the circle is through surrender. She must surrender her truth. She must take ownership over her part in the dynamic and be willing to let those insecure negative others go. She must be willing to embrace the wonderful life her exceptional husband is trying desperately to give her. She must be willing to be as wonderful as she really is, in spite of how others might react to her if she were to no longer represent herself as the poor little fat girl, everyone must feel sorry for.
There is nothing sorry about my client. She is articulate, funny, empathetic, compassionate, hard working, successful, diligent, prosperous, kind, thoughtful, generous and attractive. But if she were to own all of her worth, the insecure, jealous, envious others she calls family, might talk about her more than they do now, behind her back. They might avoid her more than they do now, And oh my...they might not even like her at all.
In order to heal her life and live before she dies, she will have to learn to confront her addiction to others. She is addicted to controlling their opinion of her.
And until she is ready to face that head on, she will continue to fight the weight she cannot seem to lose...because if she loses that, she loses her idea of what it is that is preventing her from being completely happy.
It is a shame, that most people are more afraid of the light, than they are the darkness.....
It is possible to crave the attention, company and or approval of others.
It is possible for a mother to be addicted to pleasing her children.
It is possible for a man to be addicted to feeling like he owns his woman.
It is possible to be addicted to fearing what others think about you.
A dear client of mine and I were training just yesterday. She has every physical "thing" any woman could want to make her happy. She lives in a beautiful home adorned with crown molding, tapestries, and custom woodworking. In her closet, hangs designer bags, shoes and clothes. Her husband actually adores her, and tells her often how much it is he feels as he does. In fact, he loves her more today than the day he married her.
And yet, this beautiful, 170 pound woman, refuses to be happy.
As we spoke, and her heart spilled out with negative emotions, about herself, and her extended family, I felt moved by the spirit of God to ask, "So, darling if you lost 20 pounds, what would you complain about then? If you were thinner, and your family had less to point their critical fingers at, would you then be happy with all there is in your life to be happy about? If your clothes were labeled a size 10 rather than a 14, would that allow you to open your eyes and appreciate all of God's blessings in your life right here, and right now?"
She didn't know what to say.
With love in my heart I told my client that I believed that deep down, she was happy, but because she has been made to feel guilty all her life for the "things" she has, her wounded psyche, will not allow her to embrace the joy that comes from having the kind of life that she has.
If she embraces the joy, then her life really becomes that wonderful, and she might then have to let go of what she fears other people might think of her.
In her mind, if she stays overweight, then people won't be as envious of her and her lifestyle. So rather than be completely hated for having a wonderful husband and outrageous home, she sabotages her happiness because of her addiction to fearing what others think of her.
As long as she stays overweight, and has a battle to fight in her mind, then the anxiety that is showing up because of her fear of happiness, gets to go somewhere...
The problem is, because she never faces the real issue, the is staying stuck inside a huge circle of wrinkled loops of dysfunctional thought processes.
She doesn't stay overweight because she can't lose weight...she stays overweight for the sake of others.
She fears being the woman that has it all...including the house, the great guy, and the killer body...People hate that girl, and my client doesn't want to be her...or deal with the ugliness that comes from insecure others.
What she needs to see is her fear. What she needs to see is how she is losing her life day by day, to the insane need and desire to control what other people think of her...
It is her wanting to control her anxiety about her fear of being happy at the root, that is being manifested through her need to also control how and what others think of her...
The only way out of the circle is through surrender. She must surrender her truth. She must take ownership over her part in the dynamic and be willing to let those insecure negative others go. She must be willing to embrace the wonderful life her exceptional husband is trying desperately to give her. She must be willing to be as wonderful as she really is, in spite of how others might react to her if she were to no longer represent herself as the poor little fat girl, everyone must feel sorry for.
There is nothing sorry about my client. She is articulate, funny, empathetic, compassionate, hard working, successful, diligent, prosperous, kind, thoughtful, generous and attractive. But if she were to own all of her worth, the insecure, jealous, envious others she calls family, might talk about her more than they do now, behind her back. They might avoid her more than they do now, And oh my...they might not even like her at all.
In order to heal her life and live before she dies, she will have to learn to confront her addiction to others. She is addicted to controlling their opinion of her.
And until she is ready to face that head on, she will continue to fight the weight she cannot seem to lose...because if she loses that, she loses her idea of what it is that is preventing her from being completely happy.
It is a shame, that most people are more afraid of the light, than they are the darkness.....
Monday, May 24, 2010
Why We Love Who We Love
"I don't know why I keep attracting women who abuse me in my life. I try so hard to get these women to understand how much I love them, but they always end up either cheating on me, using me, or simply abusing me. Its horrible. They put me down, disregard my opinions, or worse, just ignore me. But I stay. I keep coming back. I keep showing up for more abuse. What's wrong with me?"
So often I have met clients who seem completely confused by their faulted relationships. They wonder how and why it is they can't seem to find suitable partners; ones that will appreciate them, or make them feel like a relationship is worthwhile.
They end one dysfunctional relationship and wind up in yet another. The package is a little different, but the insides are the same. So what is going on?
In life, we attract the kind of love we know most. The way we interpret love as children, is the way we will perceive love as adults. If love is something we were taught to chase after as children, then love will be something we believe we have to chase as adults. Love will not be something we believe is in us. We will believe that love must be gained through some act, or through some trial that has proven that we are worth being loved.
If we do not do our family of origin work, and learn to appreciate what our inner beliefs about love are, we will undoubtedly attract the same kind of "love energy" we experienced as children.
We love who we love, because of who and how we were loved as children.
If we do not learn to face how we were loved as children, we are surely doomed to repeat patterns we may not want to.
All love starts with self love.
So often I have met clients who seem completely confused by their faulted relationships. They wonder how and why it is they can't seem to find suitable partners; ones that will appreciate them, or make them feel like a relationship is worthwhile.
They end one dysfunctional relationship and wind up in yet another. The package is a little different, but the insides are the same. So what is going on?
In life, we attract the kind of love we know most. The way we interpret love as children, is the way we will perceive love as adults. If love is something we were taught to chase after as children, then love will be something we believe we have to chase as adults. Love will not be something we believe is in us. We will believe that love must be gained through some act, or through some trial that has proven that we are worth being loved.
If we do not do our family of origin work, and learn to appreciate what our inner beliefs about love are, we will undoubtedly attract the same kind of "love energy" we experienced as children.
We love who we love, because of who and how we were loved as children.
If we do not learn to face how we were loved as children, we are surely doomed to repeat patterns we may not want to.
All love starts with self love.
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Personal Boundaries
One of the sure fire ways to kill any new and budding relationship is to disrespect someone else's personal boundaries.
In many cases people in relationships don't even know what their personal boundaries are, which makes it quite difficult for their partner to respect something they don't even know exists.
No relationship can ever thrive unless the two people entering into the relationship "know who they are", and this includes knowing what their personal boundaries are. When people enter into relationships in a healthy way, there is a constant exchange of personal information between them. Blended between the lines of communication, are clues as to what one another's personal boundaries are. As dedicated partners, it is essential we pick up on these clues if fostering the relationship is our goal.
If your partner is feeling stressed at work, or has recently come out of a long term relationship, or is caring for a dying parent, their need for boundaries will be essential in order to help them not feel so overwhelmed. If the partner of someone who is going through something unusually stressful at the time, cannot respect the need for personal space, the relationship may implode.
Often times when one of the people in the relationship feels the need to pull away, this sparks insecurity in the other. This insecurity sends emotional shock waves through the other partner, and triggers their need to cling. This emotional clinging only adds more stress to the already stressed out partner. This violation of personal boundaries will trigger the need to withdraw from the relationship by the stressed partner, simply out of fear of being suffocated.
The best relationships are ones that are built on patience and trust.
When in a relationship it is as important to consider what our partners need as much as what we need. .
Honesty is always the best choice in any situation. If you are the partner that is feeling stressed and needs more space, then ask for it. If your partner loves and hears you, they will oblige and not feel intimidated by your needs. If you are the partner that is being asked to back off, understand that your partner has a need that they would like you to respect. If you love your partner, you will hold onto your own feelings, and give your partner all the space they need. If you cannot, and do not respect their need, it is possible you have problems respecting someone else's boundaries.
It is not long after personal boundaries are violated, that deeper problems begin to surface in the relationship. Unless their is complete respect for the two people involved, the relationship will ultimately fail.
In many cases people in relationships don't even know what their personal boundaries are, which makes it quite difficult for their partner to respect something they don't even know exists.
No relationship can ever thrive unless the two people entering into the relationship "know who they are", and this includes knowing what their personal boundaries are. When people enter into relationships in a healthy way, there is a constant exchange of personal information between them. Blended between the lines of communication, are clues as to what one another's personal boundaries are. As dedicated partners, it is essential we pick up on these clues if fostering the relationship is our goal.
If your partner is feeling stressed at work, or has recently come out of a long term relationship, or is caring for a dying parent, their need for boundaries will be essential in order to help them not feel so overwhelmed. If the partner of someone who is going through something unusually stressful at the time, cannot respect the need for personal space, the relationship may implode.
Often times when one of the people in the relationship feels the need to pull away, this sparks insecurity in the other. This insecurity sends emotional shock waves through the other partner, and triggers their need to cling. This emotional clinging only adds more stress to the already stressed out partner. This violation of personal boundaries will trigger the need to withdraw from the relationship by the stressed partner, simply out of fear of being suffocated.
The best relationships are ones that are built on patience and trust.
When in a relationship it is as important to consider what our partners need as much as what we need. .
Honesty is always the best choice in any situation. If you are the partner that is feeling stressed and needs more space, then ask for it. If your partner loves and hears you, they will oblige and not feel intimidated by your needs. If you are the partner that is being asked to back off, understand that your partner has a need that they would like you to respect. If you love your partner, you will hold onto your own feelings, and give your partner all the space they need. If you cannot, and do not respect their need, it is possible you have problems respecting someone else's boundaries.
It is not long after personal boundaries are violated, that deeper problems begin to surface in the relationship. Unless their is complete respect for the two people involved, the relationship will ultimately fail.
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Desperation and What It Really Means
There are people who regardless of how many times the person they care about tells them the relationship is over, hang on anyway. Rather than hear what the other person is saying, they refuse to accept the other persons reality and they cling instead. In their minds they have completely altered reality for the sake of their own fears and insecurities.
So why can't some people let go?
Some clear cut rules need to be applied to any relationship.
1.} The relationship must be fulfilling, uplifting and rewarding to both parties.
2.} The relationship should not engulf either party, but help enhance an already full life.
3.} The happiness, security, and contentment of one person should never hinge completely on the other in the relationship.
4.} Both parties should feel and believe they are on the same page in the relationship.
5.} People should recognize that fear is not part of a healthy relationship, so if you are with someone because you fear you will never find someone else, or you believe no one like him/her exists, you are holding on out of fear, which will only come off as desperate.
6.} Lying on any level is not permitted. If you are happy being with someone, say it. But if you need space or time, or are angry, disappointed or unhappy with your partner, if you love them, you will tell them.
7.} Love is not about fear, control, manipulation, resentment, or neediness. Love just is, and the best kind of love, is the love that allows you to let go.
8.} And when the relationship changes and or ends, if the love shared between the two people was real, then parting need not be dramatic. Instead there is a knowing that moves in, that gently urges the two people to let go of something that was very good for a place in time.
How you end a relationship says as much about you as how you spent your time in a relationship. No relationship is perfect, because no one person is perfect. But true authentic love is perfect....And although it defies what the ego based mindset of man suggests should be true, the truth is that the more perfect and true the love was, the more gentle your heart becomes when it is time to say good bye.
So why can't some people let go?
Some clear cut rules need to be applied to any relationship.
1.} The relationship must be fulfilling, uplifting and rewarding to both parties.
2.} The relationship should not engulf either party, but help enhance an already full life.
3.} The happiness, security, and contentment of one person should never hinge completely on the other in the relationship.
4.} Both parties should feel and believe they are on the same page in the relationship.
5.} People should recognize that fear is not part of a healthy relationship, so if you are with someone because you fear you will never find someone else, or you believe no one like him/her exists, you are holding on out of fear, which will only come off as desperate.
6.} Lying on any level is not permitted. If you are happy being with someone, say it. But if you need space or time, or are angry, disappointed or unhappy with your partner, if you love them, you will tell them.
7.} Love is not about fear, control, manipulation, resentment, or neediness. Love just is, and the best kind of love, is the love that allows you to let go.
8.} And when the relationship changes and or ends, if the love shared between the two people was real, then parting need not be dramatic. Instead there is a knowing that moves in, that gently urges the two people to let go of something that was very good for a place in time.
How you end a relationship says as much about you as how you spent your time in a relationship. No relationship is perfect, because no one person is perfect. But true authentic love is perfect....And although it defies what the ego based mindset of man suggests should be true, the truth is that the more perfect and true the love was, the more gentle your heart becomes when it is time to say good bye.
Friday, March 19, 2010
Do You Know What You Are Looking For?
Often times we hear the people in our lives complaining about their partners. Our friends complain about how unfeeling their husbands are, or about how irresponsible their boyfriends are with money. All of us have a friend or two that has even been physically, verbally or emotionally abused. And then there is the token friend, who has been cheated on over and over by the person she claims to love...
What the???
When speaking with clients, I often ask them, "Do you KNOW what you want?". Most often than not, they are left speechless for a moment or two, because the question has literally stunned them. One woman actually asked, "You mean I can choose what kind of man I date?"
Mama mia!
We are all captains of our own ship, and unless we spend ample time thinking about what kind of traits we would like to find in a potential partner, we are doomed to settle for what shows up. When we don't know what will satisfy our hunger, we will grab the first edible thing in sight. Desperate to be in a relationship of any kind, we cling, obsess and beg for validation in all the wrong places.
The Wright Brothers first had to see the airplane flying in their minds before they could find one in the sky. And so it is with us all. We owe it to God to know what we want to experience while we are on this planet. Otherwise how will He know what to send our way?
It is amazing to me how very little effort people put into trying to figure out what kind of relationship they believe would make them happy. We spend more time in line trying to rent a rug shampooer than we do contemplating partners.
I suggest my clients make lists on paper detailing what qualities they are looking for in a partner. There should be a 'yes' and an 'absolute no' column. It should be pondered through, and taken quite seriously. It should be looked at as your blueprint for the future.
List all the qualities you would put into a partner. Understand the difference between desperation and earnest want, because it is a tough thing when what you want shows up, and they don't want you.
When this happens, it is important to remember that finding someone who is looking for the exact you, is as equally important as finding the right equal for you.
Imagine how great you'll feel when you not only find what you are looking for, but you discover that the person you were looking for was also looking for you...
And when relationships show up, take inventory. If the person meets your criteria, and you meet theirs, prepare for magic to happen...
Can I get an Amen?
What the???
When speaking with clients, I often ask them, "Do you KNOW what you want?". Most often than not, they are left speechless for a moment or two, because the question has literally stunned them. One woman actually asked, "You mean I can choose what kind of man I date?"
Mama mia!
We are all captains of our own ship, and unless we spend ample time thinking about what kind of traits we would like to find in a potential partner, we are doomed to settle for what shows up. When we don't know what will satisfy our hunger, we will grab the first edible thing in sight. Desperate to be in a relationship of any kind, we cling, obsess and beg for validation in all the wrong places.
The Wright Brothers first had to see the airplane flying in their minds before they could find one in the sky. And so it is with us all. We owe it to God to know what we want to experience while we are on this planet. Otherwise how will He know what to send our way?
It is amazing to me how very little effort people put into trying to figure out what kind of relationship they believe would make them happy. We spend more time in line trying to rent a rug shampooer than we do contemplating partners.
I suggest my clients make lists on paper detailing what qualities they are looking for in a partner. There should be a 'yes' and an 'absolute no' column. It should be pondered through, and taken quite seriously. It should be looked at as your blueprint for the future.
List all the qualities you would put into a partner. Understand the difference between desperation and earnest want, because it is a tough thing when what you want shows up, and they don't want you.
When this happens, it is important to remember that finding someone who is looking for the exact you, is as equally important as finding the right equal for you.
Imagine how great you'll feel when you not only find what you are looking for, but you discover that the person you were looking for was also looking for you...
And when relationships show up, take inventory. If the person meets your criteria, and you meet theirs, prepare for magic to happen...
Can I get an Amen?
Healthy Love vs Enabling Love
I was recently asked if I thought true, authentic, real love was possible.
A reader of mine mentioned that my blogs and articles tend to imply that 'taking care' of others is always the wrong thing to do. She expressed confusion, because it was unclear to her why taking care of others is such a bad thing. She had been taught to be a caretaker since the age of three, when her father died and her mother took up to drinking.
"But I love my mother Lisa. Aren't I supposed to take care of her? Aren't I supposed to worry about her? She is all alone, and she drinks all the time. There is no way she could take care of herself?"
Sigh...sigh...sigh...
Life is not so cut and dry, and never is it completely black and white. Of course it is natural and good to take care of the ones we love, but when that caring becomes enabling, then it has crossed the line.
Self reliance requires that each of us born learn to care for ourselves as completely as possible. When we learn to take care of our own needs financially, mentally, and emotionally, we free the people up in our lives to be who they were born to be. When instead, we lean on, whine to, drain, and put the ones who love us in a position that involves them doing things for us we can do for ourselves, we have crossed the bridge into the forbidden zone.
This woman has no memory of not worrying about her mother. So what then has become of her own view of the world, and of her self? How has the experience of constant worrying about someone she loves, cost her as an adult? How can she know the needs or wants of her own spirit, if when she has had to worry so intensely about a mother who was so ill?
Enabling is not always so easy to spot. It is often the most difficult quality to see in ourselves and in others....
When in relationships, it is essential that each person involved know and respect their own needs, boundaries, and self.
When relationships are unbalanced, individuals can often unknowingly deny parts of themselves for the sake of maintaining peace in the relationship. For this woman, she forgoes confronting her mothers addiction for many reasons. She is uncomfortable confronting the drinking, because it may lead to an argument, which may lead to emotional distance between them, which may lead to guilt in her for upsetting the mother she views as a victim of life's uncertainty.
Somewhere in this young woman's mind, she taught herself to shut off or deny her own desires so that she could continue enabling her mother. Although this young woman will say she loves her mother { and surely she does } what she fails to recognize is that all she has accomplished for not expecting her mother to learn to deal with being alone has helped her stay stuck.
When we are in relationships that raise red flags that we ignore, we are enabling. When we deny what we know is true, we are enabling. When we do for others what they can do for themselves, we are enabling. When we allow people to push us past our boundaries, we are enabling. And when we don't learn to confront the things we know we should, we actively participate in the stalling of our own lives.
It is healthy to say "No", and "I have had enough", if this is your truth. It is healthy to walk away from a relationship you feel drains you, even if no one else you know understands why you feel the way you do. It is healthy to expect the alcoholics in our lives to get better, and to distance ourselves from them if they don't start taking care of themselves. It is healthy to ask for clarity from another person, if you need it. And if the people you are asking clarity from care for you, they will offer it to you rather than try to make you feel guilty or less than for asking....
And yes, I do believe in real, true, and authentic love. But I believe you must become it, before you can experience it in a relationship.
A reader of mine mentioned that my blogs and articles tend to imply that 'taking care' of others is always the wrong thing to do. She expressed confusion, because it was unclear to her why taking care of others is such a bad thing. She had been taught to be a caretaker since the age of three, when her father died and her mother took up to drinking.
"But I love my mother Lisa. Aren't I supposed to take care of her? Aren't I supposed to worry about her? She is all alone, and she drinks all the time. There is no way she could take care of herself?"
Sigh...sigh...sigh...
Life is not so cut and dry, and never is it completely black and white. Of course it is natural and good to take care of the ones we love, but when that caring becomes enabling, then it has crossed the line.
Self reliance requires that each of us born learn to care for ourselves as completely as possible. When we learn to take care of our own needs financially, mentally, and emotionally, we free the people up in our lives to be who they were born to be. When instead, we lean on, whine to, drain, and put the ones who love us in a position that involves them doing things for us we can do for ourselves, we have crossed the bridge into the forbidden zone.
This woman has no memory of not worrying about her mother. So what then has become of her own view of the world, and of her self? How has the experience of constant worrying about someone she loves, cost her as an adult? How can she know the needs or wants of her own spirit, if when she has had to worry so intensely about a mother who was so ill?
Enabling is not always so easy to spot. It is often the most difficult quality to see in ourselves and in others....
When in relationships, it is essential that each person involved know and respect their own needs, boundaries, and self.
When relationships are unbalanced, individuals can often unknowingly deny parts of themselves for the sake of maintaining peace in the relationship. For this woman, she forgoes confronting her mothers addiction for many reasons. She is uncomfortable confronting the drinking, because it may lead to an argument, which may lead to emotional distance between them, which may lead to guilt in her for upsetting the mother she views as a victim of life's uncertainty.
Somewhere in this young woman's mind, she taught herself to shut off or deny her own desires so that she could continue enabling her mother. Although this young woman will say she loves her mother { and surely she does } what she fails to recognize is that all she has accomplished for not expecting her mother to learn to deal with being alone has helped her stay stuck.
When we are in relationships that raise red flags that we ignore, we are enabling. When we deny what we know is true, we are enabling. When we do for others what they can do for themselves, we are enabling. When we allow people to push us past our boundaries, we are enabling. And when we don't learn to confront the things we know we should, we actively participate in the stalling of our own lives.
It is healthy to say "No", and "I have had enough", if this is your truth. It is healthy to walk away from a relationship you feel drains you, even if no one else you know understands why you feel the way you do. It is healthy to expect the alcoholics in our lives to get better, and to distance ourselves from them if they don't start taking care of themselves. It is healthy to ask for clarity from another person, if you need it. And if the people you are asking clarity from care for you, they will offer it to you rather than try to make you feel guilty or less than for asking....
And yes, I do believe in real, true, and authentic love. But I believe you must become it, before you can experience it in a relationship.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Our Daughters and their Abusive Boyfriends
I was recently contacted by a woman who has a 19 year old daughter who is involved with a boy who mentally, emotionally and physically abuses her.
The mom is distraught. Her daughter makes excuses for the black eyes, the bruises about her arms, and for the late night arguments that take place at night in his car in front of their home.
This mom is affluent; a CEO in fact, of a Fortune 500 company. Her husband is a lawyer, and her daughter was to enroll in Med School this coming Fall. So what went wrong?
Mom begged for understanding. How is it that my husband and I, who have loved our daughter unconditionally, who has had everything the world has had to offer, wind up with a guy who has nothing to offer her at all, and on top of it, causes her emotional and physical harm?
I don't know this woman, this man, or this young woman. But I do know human emotion. I do know what it is all humans want way below the surface; below the BMW's; below the Ivy League educations; below the 6 bedroom house.
Way beneath all that the world has to offer superficially is the seed that carries in it the secret to what drives us all.
And if this seed is not planted, cultivated, watered and bombarded with intense bouts of sunshine, it will warp into a species it was not intended to be. It will change the programming of the seed, and make it go array, and behave completely differently than what God created it to be. Instead of being a rose, it will become a dandelion instead.
It is obvious to me this mother and father love their daughter dearly. It was important for them to give their children the THINGS they themselves did not have as children. The world of the material altered their perception of priorities, and lead them to believe that because their daughter had THINGS, and received EVERYTHING she asked for, they believed their daughter knew they loved her. All the late night meetings, missed family meals, and structured family vacations were paying off, so they believed.
In turn this beautiful little rose, that doesn't know she is a rose, learned to believe in THINGS too. Only one problem. THINGS can't water you. THINGS can't feed you. THINGS can't nourish you. THINGS can't bask you in warmth. And THINGS can't help you grow.
This child has been touched by something that the expensive THINGS her parents have showered her with never could. This child has been touched by human emotion. This relationship, with all its ups and downs has stirred her soul like no pretty little four wheeled toy could. It doesn't matter if what she feels is negative or positive. What matters to this seed, is that she feels at all.
Imagine you were starving, thirsty, and longing for nourishment. Imagine all you knew was the desert sand, and the beating sun. Imagine if your whole life you craved for food, and then one day you happen upon a landfill of rotting food. What do you think? What do you do?
Obviously you think you are the luckiest person in the world for having found such bounty. You ignore the maggots crawling in and out of the half eaten hamburger you have found. You might even eat them too. You are undisturbed by the wretched smell of rotting animal flesh, and you eat until your belly is full. In your thoughts, you hear yourself thanking God because you are alive.
You are happy because you have no frame of reference. You have nothing to compare this rancid meal too. All your body and mind understand is that you are no longer starving.
The soul is a lot like our bellies. We all do it. Sometimes when we are hungry, we settle for anything just to shut the hunger off. The soul is no different. Sometimes we are so hungry to FEEL something, we settle for anything that either makes us feel something, or for something that helps mask the horrifying fact that we FEEL nothing.
The dynamic shows up in children who cut themselves. They cut their flesh open, because the pain makes them feel real. On top of that, the pain releases endorphins in the brain which tricks the brain into believing the cutting is good. The brain then makes the connection between cutting and feeling alive, or feeling good. What follows is a cycle of self inflicted abuse the child has no idea how to get out of.
Abusive relationships, like obesity, eating disorders, perfectionism, dependency and alike, are all forms of slow suicide.
The young girl involved in this dysfunctional relationship has yet to be convinced her parents loved her for who and what she is. Because she has not been convinced on a heart level of her parents devotion, the walls of her soul have been left untouched. This relationship, although dysfunctional, is full of highs and lows that increase endorphins in her brain, and flutters in her heart. Because she has not learned to believe in her parents love for her, she does not yet know she is a rose, and instead behaves like a dandelion which requires very little to survive. A rose on the other hand, in order to be as majestic as she is, accepts nothing but the best, because she knows she is worth it.
There is nothing more significant in a child's life than the love of their parents. A child cannot flourish unless true, deep love is reflected back into their soul. Unless children are mirrored unconditional love on a HEART level, they cannot know their own worth. Unconditional, heart level love, has nothing to do with anything we can touch, taste, hear or smell. It can only be felt in the heart and transmitted on a spiritual plane from a parents soul to their child's soul.
My advice to the mom was to reach out to the daughter on a heart level. Forget reminding her that she has a future and that med school is around the corner. Forget making her fear not having a future because this guy is ruining her. Forget telling her she deserves better. Forget throwing all that you have done for her in her face. Forget it, and remember this is not a battle that can be won with words.
I suggested the family take one month off from their work to plan a vacation that included backpacking, hiking, climbing, boating, and roughing it, to some extent. My goal was to create a situation in which the family needed to rely on one another to get through whatever challenges they may have had to face. A vacation in Dubai would do this family no good if all the members were doing was being catered to, chatting on cell phones, getting massages, and having their feet rubbed. No, uh uh...this family needs some good old fashioned together time.
I was asked to accompany this family on their month long excursion, and then reminded this wonderful mother, that I had two daughters I am raising on my own to fill with love. She laughed and said, "I understand."
Next week the family heads off to Texas for a month long vacation of rock climbing lessons, river rafting excursions and family cook outs on prairies and planes.
I cautioned the mom to let her guard down, and the dad too. This young daughter must see the heart side of both parents. She must learn to believe that she is like them; human, vulnerable, and alive, because if they don't, they just might lose her forever to the thrills of dysfunction simply because she has no frame of reference to compare that version of love to.
Her dad specifically must learn to open up, let go, and bare his soul to his precious little angel, so that he might lasso her heart before he loses it forever. Children cry. Children weep. Children feel, and unless we find the strength to let out what our own hearts have forgotten, we teach our children to deny their own worth, and to disconnect from love.
It is our job as parents, to not only give our children the things we never received in terms of the material, but it also our job to give them our hearts.
It's scary stuff, but if we don't learn to let our guard down, be vulnerable, and express the true love we feel for our daughters in our hearts verbally to them, they will be forced to find that connection in all the wrong places....
Phew...this parenting stuff is rough stuff...but so worth it...
God Bless all those parents out there, struggling to get it right....
Lisa
The mom is distraught. Her daughter makes excuses for the black eyes, the bruises about her arms, and for the late night arguments that take place at night in his car in front of their home.
This mom is affluent; a CEO in fact, of a Fortune 500 company. Her husband is a lawyer, and her daughter was to enroll in Med School this coming Fall. So what went wrong?
Mom begged for understanding. How is it that my husband and I, who have loved our daughter unconditionally, who has had everything the world has had to offer, wind up with a guy who has nothing to offer her at all, and on top of it, causes her emotional and physical harm?
I don't know this woman, this man, or this young woman. But I do know human emotion. I do know what it is all humans want way below the surface; below the BMW's; below the Ivy League educations; below the 6 bedroom house.
Way beneath all that the world has to offer superficially is the seed that carries in it the secret to what drives us all.
And if this seed is not planted, cultivated, watered and bombarded with intense bouts of sunshine, it will warp into a species it was not intended to be. It will change the programming of the seed, and make it go array, and behave completely differently than what God created it to be. Instead of being a rose, it will become a dandelion instead.
It is obvious to me this mother and father love their daughter dearly. It was important for them to give their children the THINGS they themselves did not have as children. The world of the material altered their perception of priorities, and lead them to believe that because their daughter had THINGS, and received EVERYTHING she asked for, they believed their daughter knew they loved her. All the late night meetings, missed family meals, and structured family vacations were paying off, so they believed.
In turn this beautiful little rose, that doesn't know she is a rose, learned to believe in THINGS too. Only one problem. THINGS can't water you. THINGS can't feed you. THINGS can't nourish you. THINGS can't bask you in warmth. And THINGS can't help you grow.
This child has been touched by something that the expensive THINGS her parents have showered her with never could. This child has been touched by human emotion. This relationship, with all its ups and downs has stirred her soul like no pretty little four wheeled toy could. It doesn't matter if what she feels is negative or positive. What matters to this seed, is that she feels at all.
Imagine you were starving, thirsty, and longing for nourishment. Imagine all you knew was the desert sand, and the beating sun. Imagine if your whole life you craved for food, and then one day you happen upon a landfill of rotting food. What do you think? What do you do?
Obviously you think you are the luckiest person in the world for having found such bounty. You ignore the maggots crawling in and out of the half eaten hamburger you have found. You might even eat them too. You are undisturbed by the wretched smell of rotting animal flesh, and you eat until your belly is full. In your thoughts, you hear yourself thanking God because you are alive.
You are happy because you have no frame of reference. You have nothing to compare this rancid meal too. All your body and mind understand is that you are no longer starving.
The soul is a lot like our bellies. We all do it. Sometimes when we are hungry, we settle for anything just to shut the hunger off. The soul is no different. Sometimes we are so hungry to FEEL something, we settle for anything that either makes us feel something, or for something that helps mask the horrifying fact that we FEEL nothing.
The dynamic shows up in children who cut themselves. They cut their flesh open, because the pain makes them feel real. On top of that, the pain releases endorphins in the brain which tricks the brain into believing the cutting is good. The brain then makes the connection between cutting and feeling alive, or feeling good. What follows is a cycle of self inflicted abuse the child has no idea how to get out of.
Abusive relationships, like obesity, eating disorders, perfectionism, dependency and alike, are all forms of slow suicide.
The young girl involved in this dysfunctional relationship has yet to be convinced her parents loved her for who and what she is. Because she has not been convinced on a heart level of her parents devotion, the walls of her soul have been left untouched. This relationship, although dysfunctional, is full of highs and lows that increase endorphins in her brain, and flutters in her heart. Because she has not learned to believe in her parents love for her, she does not yet know she is a rose, and instead behaves like a dandelion which requires very little to survive. A rose on the other hand, in order to be as majestic as she is, accepts nothing but the best, because she knows she is worth it.
There is nothing more significant in a child's life than the love of their parents. A child cannot flourish unless true, deep love is reflected back into their soul. Unless children are mirrored unconditional love on a HEART level, they cannot know their own worth. Unconditional, heart level love, has nothing to do with anything we can touch, taste, hear or smell. It can only be felt in the heart and transmitted on a spiritual plane from a parents soul to their child's soul.
My advice to the mom was to reach out to the daughter on a heart level. Forget reminding her that she has a future and that med school is around the corner. Forget making her fear not having a future because this guy is ruining her. Forget telling her she deserves better. Forget throwing all that you have done for her in her face. Forget it, and remember this is not a battle that can be won with words.
I suggested the family take one month off from their work to plan a vacation that included backpacking, hiking, climbing, boating, and roughing it, to some extent. My goal was to create a situation in which the family needed to rely on one another to get through whatever challenges they may have had to face. A vacation in Dubai would do this family no good if all the members were doing was being catered to, chatting on cell phones, getting massages, and having their feet rubbed. No, uh uh...this family needs some good old fashioned together time.
I was asked to accompany this family on their month long excursion, and then reminded this wonderful mother, that I had two daughters I am raising on my own to fill with love. She laughed and said, "I understand."
Next week the family heads off to Texas for a month long vacation of rock climbing lessons, river rafting excursions and family cook outs on prairies and planes.
I cautioned the mom to let her guard down, and the dad too. This young daughter must see the heart side of both parents. She must learn to believe that she is like them; human, vulnerable, and alive, because if they don't, they just might lose her forever to the thrills of dysfunction simply because she has no frame of reference to compare that version of love to.
Her dad specifically must learn to open up, let go, and bare his soul to his precious little angel, so that he might lasso her heart before he loses it forever. Children cry. Children weep. Children feel, and unless we find the strength to let out what our own hearts have forgotten, we teach our children to deny their own worth, and to disconnect from love.
It is our job as parents, to not only give our children the things we never received in terms of the material, but it also our job to give them our hearts.
It's scary stuff, but if we don't learn to let our guard down, be vulnerable, and express the true love we feel for our daughters in our hearts verbally to them, they will be forced to find that connection in all the wrong places....
Phew...this parenting stuff is rough stuff...but so worth it...
God Bless all those parents out there, struggling to get it right....
Lisa
Monday, March 15, 2010
Thoughts Of The Day
God wants those who can appreciate beauty to be surrounded by those beautiful things. He wants those who can discern truth to have every opportunity to travel and observe. He wants those who can appreciate dress to be clothed beautifully.
The law of gratitude states that Action plus Reaction are always equal.
What you do unto others will come back to you...there is no way this cannot be true.
What you choose to do or not to do is always equal to the outcome. You help others by making the best of yourself.
"Give every man in use value more than you take from him in cash value. In this you are adding to his life. God says, "I want eyes to see my glory, hands to build divine structures, to play divine harmonies, to paint glorious pictures, feet to run my errands, eyes to see my beauty, tongues to tell mighty truths, and sing marvelous songs."
Think well of your self and what you deserve. Think ABUNDANCE, FREEDOM, PEACE, HEALTH, SAFETY, HAPPINESS....
In between matter, there is space. In that space exists thought. THINK WELL...THINK WEALTH...THINK ENRICHING MAN...THINK CONNECTEDNESS...THINK HARMONY...THINK LOVE.........Put faith into that space...and wait for your dreams to arrive....
A way a man does things is the direct result of the way he chooses to think about things....
Man can form things in his thoughts and cause the thing that is imagined, and first perceived as simply thoughts to be created....THINK WELL OF ALL THINGS AND ALL PEOPLE...CHOOSE YOUR DESTINY, FRIENDS, LOVERS, AND PARTNERS WISELY...
Create a mental image...take ownership over it and then be grateful as if it is...
God says we are blessed by all things He has created. We are entitled to the riches of the earth. We are entitled to happiness, to travel, to riches, to it all..
POOR OF MIND, OF WEALTH, AND OF SPIRIT, NEED INSPIRATION....BE THAT WITH EVERY BREATH OF YOU..............
By becoming all you can be...YOU HELP HEAL THE WORLD...
There is no such thing possible in this universe as lack of opportunity to the advancing man, living an advancing life.
Declare:
I choose to step forward each and every day in every moment...
I deserve peace, happiness, healthy, wealth, security, and authentic love...
I am an instrument of God's peace...I am happiness...I bring happiness...I am forgiving...I do forgive...I do love...I am love....
God is all things. God says, "I am who am"...God lives in me...and you...We are connected to god and to the same divine intellect that makes the flowers grow, the seasons change, the seas churn, and the birds sing....
KNOW; God is more anxious to give to us than we are to receive...
The law of gratitude states that Action plus Reaction are always equal.
What you do unto others will come back to you...there is no way this cannot be true.
What you choose to do or not to do is always equal to the outcome. You help others by making the best of yourself.
"Give every man in use value more than you take from him in cash value. In this you are adding to his life. God says, "I want eyes to see my glory, hands to build divine structures, to play divine harmonies, to paint glorious pictures, feet to run my errands, eyes to see my beauty, tongues to tell mighty truths, and sing marvelous songs."
Think well of your self and what you deserve. Think ABUNDANCE, FREEDOM, PEACE, HEALTH, SAFETY, HAPPINESS....
In between matter, there is space. In that space exists thought. THINK WELL...THINK WEALTH...THINK ENRICHING MAN...THINK CONNECTEDNESS...THINK HARMONY...THINK LOVE.........Put faith into that space...and wait for your dreams to arrive....
A way a man does things is the direct result of the way he chooses to think about things....
Man can form things in his thoughts and cause the thing that is imagined, and first perceived as simply thoughts to be created....THINK WELL OF ALL THINGS AND ALL PEOPLE...CHOOSE YOUR DESTINY, FRIENDS, LOVERS, AND PARTNERS WISELY...
Create a mental image...take ownership over it and then be grateful as if it is...
God says we are blessed by all things He has created. We are entitled to the riches of the earth. We are entitled to happiness, to travel, to riches, to it all..
POOR OF MIND, OF WEALTH, AND OF SPIRIT, NEED INSPIRATION....BE THAT WITH EVERY BREATH OF YOU..............
By becoming all you can be...YOU HELP HEAL THE WORLD...
There is no such thing possible in this universe as lack of opportunity to the advancing man, living an advancing life.
Declare:
I choose to step forward each and every day in every moment...
I deserve peace, happiness, healthy, wealth, security, and authentic love...
I am an instrument of God's peace...I am happiness...I bring happiness...I am forgiving...I do forgive...I do love...I am love....
God is all things. God says, "I am who am"...God lives in me...and you...We are connected to god and to the same divine intellect that makes the flowers grow, the seasons change, the seas churn, and the birds sing....
KNOW; God is more anxious to give to us than we are to receive...
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