Check this out...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s0EeKhBqumM
Teaching others 'how to heal and transform' their lives. Healing is not about thinking happy thoughts. It is about learning 'how to change' the thoughts, and the dysfunctional childhood programming that is stored in our subconscious minds.
Friday, February 17, 2012
Thursday, February 16, 2012
The Electromagnetic Field Of The Heart
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HvdfFW-yYGE&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s12IheU9bHk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=llQXF_8A6xM&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s12IheU9bHk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=llQXF_8A6xM&feature=related
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Living In The Heart Field Rather Than The Brain Field
Here is some information for you to consider when thinking about your emotions.
The brain is less electrically charged than the heart.
The heart is 40-50 times electrically stronger than the brain.
The heart sends information to the brain...and in turn the brain sends information to the heart...not the other way around.
The pulse in your wrist is the result of a wave of energy. It is called the Blood Pressure Wave. The blood pressure wave modulates the brain. The brain does not modulate the blood pressure. What you feel, by way of emotional waves in the heart, effects the rhythm of your blood wave, which sends negative or positive information to the brain.
In 1983 the heart was reclassified as a part of our hormonal system. It secretes atrial peptide which is responsible for reducing cortisol, the stress hormone in the body. It also secretes oxytocin which is called the love hormone.
The heart is an electrical organ which emits an electrical field which can be measured. The field not only encompasses every cell of our body, out through our skin, but it also emits out into space.
Researches using magnetometers can definitively measure this field. This field is not controlled by the brain. It is controlled by the heart.
GET THIS!! Our field changes determining what we are 'feeling'. Magnetic fields are determined by what we 'feel'. The electromagnetic field of a being is effected by the heart.
Collectively, how do others heart fields effect OUR heart fields???
Follow your heart, follow your love, follow your truth...and be free to heal humanity...
Imagine there's no heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today...
Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace...
You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one
Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world...
You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one
Imagine a world with no heaven, no religion too...
Namaste
Thank you to
Howard Martin v. p. at the Heart Math Institute in N. Ca for his research on The Intelligence of The Heart.
You can watch a video on The Intelligence of the heart here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dyXlbt-UT-I&feature=related
The brain is less electrically charged than the heart.
The heart is 40-50 times electrically stronger than the brain.
The heart sends information to the brain...and in turn the brain sends information to the heart...not the other way around.
The pulse in your wrist is the result of a wave of energy. It is called the Blood Pressure Wave. The blood pressure wave modulates the brain. The brain does not modulate the blood pressure. What you feel, by way of emotional waves in the heart, effects the rhythm of your blood wave, which sends negative or positive information to the brain.
In 1983 the heart was reclassified as a part of our hormonal system. It secretes atrial peptide which is responsible for reducing cortisol, the stress hormone in the body. It also secretes oxytocin which is called the love hormone.
The heart is an electrical organ which emits an electrical field which can be measured. The field not only encompasses every cell of our body, out through our skin, but it also emits out into space.
Researches using magnetometers can definitively measure this field. This field is not controlled by the brain. It is controlled by the heart.
GET THIS!! Our field changes determining what we are 'feeling'. Magnetic fields are determined by what we 'feel'. The electromagnetic field of a being is effected by the heart.
Collectively, how do others heart fields effect OUR heart fields???
Follow your heart, follow your love, follow your truth...and be free to heal humanity...
Imagine there's no heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today...
Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace...
You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one
Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world...
You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one
Imagine a world with no heaven, no religion too...
Namaste
Thank you to
Howard Martin v. p. at the Heart Math Institute in N. Ca for his research on The Intelligence of The Heart.
You can watch a video on The Intelligence of the heart here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dyXlbt-UT-I&feature=related
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Positive Thoughts Create Mental Health
Thoughts become things. What we think about, we bring about. Where
our attention goes, energy flows.
If you felt like having pizza for dinner, your attention to pizza would
bring about the chain of events necessary to ensure your desire for
pizza was met.
And so it is with all thoughts we think.
If your thoughts are negative, and you do nothing to shift your focus,
then soon you will experience things that reinforce the negativity you
were feeling within. If instead you chose to use your power of focus
to draw your attention to things that made you feel more positive, you
would experience circumstances, people and events that reinforced your
more positive internal vibration.
People who are considered to be mentally fit, are those who are
efficient at coping with life. It is necessary to note however, that
those who possess more positive personalities, undoubtedly experience
less unwanted stress. This is no mistake.
Are the more positive beings amongst us, more pleasant because they
have less unwanted stress, and are the mentally unhealthy more negative
because their lives are so uncomfortably stressed?
In this Life Coaches humble opinion, I believe the answers to these
complex questions are curiously simple.
The way someone thinks creates the experience they live. The more
positive a mind, the less unwanted people, circumstances and
experiences that person attracts. The more negative a mind, the more
unwanted people, circumstances and experiences that person attracts.
Want to feel more mentally fit right now? If so, workout that grin a
little more often. Start lifting your own spirit. Exercise the happy
rhythm of your heart, and every once in awhile do a silly jig. Now
that's a workout!
our attention goes, energy flows.
If you felt like having pizza for dinner, your attention to pizza would
bring about the chain of events necessary to ensure your desire for
pizza was met.
And so it is with all thoughts we think.
If your thoughts are negative, and you do nothing to shift your focus,
then soon you will experience things that reinforce the negativity you
were feeling within. If instead you chose to use your power of focus
to draw your attention to things that made you feel more positive, you
would experience circumstances, people and events that reinforced your
more positive internal vibration.
People who are considered to be mentally fit, are those who are
efficient at coping with life. It is necessary to note however, that
those who possess more positive personalities, undoubtedly experience
less unwanted stress. This is no mistake.
Are the more positive beings amongst us, more pleasant because they
have less unwanted stress, and are the mentally unhealthy more negative
because their lives are so uncomfortably stressed?
In this Life Coaches humble opinion, I believe the answers to these
complex questions are curiously simple.
The way someone thinks creates the experience they live. The more
positive a mind, the less unwanted people, circumstances and
experiences that person attracts. The more negative a mind, the more
unwanted people, circumstances and experiences that person attracts.
Want to feel more mentally fit right now? If so, workout that grin a
little more often. Start lifting your own spirit. Exercise the happy
rhythm of your heart, and every once in awhile do a silly jig. Now
that's a workout!
A Love Letter To My Daughter
Heaven crafted an angel, and sent her to me,
To care for, to watch over and to one day set free.
The angel you are, lives simultaneously in my soul,
And when you are not happy, in me-I feel not whole.
You my sweet angel have no need for tears,
Nor do you have need for unnecessary fears.
You are perfect my angel, and this is no mommy's fairy tale,
My eyes see only beauty; At life you shall not fail.
Never doubt the place in my heart for you,
Remember these rhymes in case you ever do.
A prouder mother there could never be,
Your infectious spirit is as deep as the seas.
Fret not my angel, its normal for winged creatures to want to fly,
Time is marching on, and you're giving flight a try.
In life you'll need to discover your own sets of rules,
You'll fall on one occasion or maybe two.
Every angel stumbles along her way,
Its how we angels learn, and eventually find brighter days.
Never doubt the love that brought you from heaven to me,
I love you Michelle, Love, Mommy
To care for, to watch over and to one day set free.
The angel you are, lives simultaneously in my soul,
And when you are not happy, in me-I feel not whole.
You my sweet angel have no need for tears,
Nor do you have need for unnecessary fears.
You are perfect my angel, and this is no mommy's fairy tale,
My eyes see only beauty; At life you shall not fail.
Never doubt the place in my heart for you,
Remember these rhymes in case you ever do.
A prouder mother there could never be,
Your infectious spirit is as deep as the seas.
Fret not my angel, its normal for winged creatures to want to fly,
Time is marching on, and you're giving flight a try.
In life you'll need to discover your own sets of rules,
You'll fall on one occasion or maybe two.
Every angel stumbles along her way,
Its how we angels learn, and eventually find brighter days.
Never doubt the love that brought you from heaven to me,
I love you Michelle, Love, Mommy
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
How The Law of Attraction Really Works
You at your very core are a vortex of spinning energy. Your being is vibrational in nature. This is not sorcery, a fantasy or some made up plot in a fiction novel. This is science folks.
Your heart beats due to an electric current that is supplied by the chemicals in your body.
You are a vibrational creation.
The very universe you exist in, exists because of like matter being drawn to like matter in the form of energy flow.
Although most people never question how it is the moon or the sun sit in the sky without strings or scaffolding holding them up in outer space, the very foundation of our universe is the law of attraction.
Although books like the Secret and The Power were instrumental in raising awareness about this universal law, unfortunately less curious minds have poo pooed the premise as hollywood fluff. These minds are missing out on a whole lot of fun. So sad...Oh well...let's move on.
The universe can only exist if the law of attraction continues to operate. Because this is simply scientific fact, it only makes sense that it is true for all forms of life within it.
Humans have an ability no other life forms have. We have the ability to consciously alter our realities through focus and deliberate intent. Our ability to visualize and feel on an emotional level is the equivalent to sending out a radio signal. Because the universe is vibrational in nature, it is constantly, in every moment receiving information and drawing like energies to match our vibrations, whether they be positive or negative.
If you are feeling angry, your vibrations are negative. In every moment you sit in your anger, you are sending that frequency into the universe, which will respond immediately with equal negative energy. Whether you spill your coffee, lose your car keys, get a flat, or have an argument with a stranger in the street, whatever shows up next will be equal to your vibrational offering.
The key to happiness is self awareness. Learning to still the mind so you are able to observe what you are thinking and feeling is one of the first steps to using this law to your advantage.
Knowing what you are thinking and especially feeling moment to moment, allows you to then decide what you want to think and feel to effectively create your reality to match your innermost desires.
Pay attention, because your universe is...
Namaste...
Your heart beats due to an electric current that is supplied by the chemicals in your body.
You are a vibrational creation.
The very universe you exist in, exists because of like matter being drawn to like matter in the form of energy flow.
Although most people never question how it is the moon or the sun sit in the sky without strings or scaffolding holding them up in outer space, the very foundation of our universe is the law of attraction.
Although books like the Secret and The Power were instrumental in raising awareness about this universal law, unfortunately less curious minds have poo pooed the premise as hollywood fluff. These minds are missing out on a whole lot of fun. So sad...Oh well...let's move on.
The universe can only exist if the law of attraction continues to operate. Because this is simply scientific fact, it only makes sense that it is true for all forms of life within it.
Humans have an ability no other life forms have. We have the ability to consciously alter our realities through focus and deliberate intent. Our ability to visualize and feel on an emotional level is the equivalent to sending out a radio signal. Because the universe is vibrational in nature, it is constantly, in every moment receiving information and drawing like energies to match our vibrations, whether they be positive or negative.
If you are feeling angry, your vibrations are negative. In every moment you sit in your anger, you are sending that frequency into the universe, which will respond immediately with equal negative energy. Whether you spill your coffee, lose your car keys, get a flat, or have an argument with a stranger in the street, whatever shows up next will be equal to your vibrational offering.
The key to happiness is self awareness. Learning to still the mind so you are able to observe what you are thinking and feeling is one of the first steps to using this law to your advantage.
Knowing what you are thinking and especially feeling moment to moment, allows you to then decide what you want to think and feel to effectively create your reality to match your innermost desires.
Pay attention, because your universe is...
Namaste...
Monday, February 6, 2012
Parenting Tip Using The Law of Attraction
All beings come into this physical time space reality seeking the pleasurable experience of expansion through the joy of freedom.
Beings were intended to come into this physical realm with the freedom to choose their own thoughts, wants and ultimately to manifest their truest desires.
But sadly, more often than not, beings are born into situations that are less than ideal. When beings are born to dysfunctional parents, and are programmed to worry more about what others think about them, then what they think about themselves, beings are pulled out of alignment with their true purpose.
Freedom is the fundamental requirement for happiness. If a being does not feel free, he/she will be unable to reveal to themselves the content of their truest desires. The being who feels oppressed in some way, will instead need to push against those he/she perceives as his/her oppressor.
If we as parents truly want our children to be happy, we must understand that at our children's very core is the need to feel free.
All beings ultimately come to this time and space to experience joy. Beings who feel free to truly be who they are, avoid painful experiences. If parents used these concepts consciously while rearing their children they could avoid future problematic issues.
Children who rebel, rebel because they sense their freedom is being threatened. Because the need to feel free is so innate, children sometimes involve themselves with risk taking behavior simply as a means to prove to their oppressors that they are ultimately in charge of their own lives.
It is wiser for us as parents to use language that invokes the idea of collectiveness. Asking a child when he/she is going to take the garbage out, rather than telling the child to take the garbage out, suggests that the child is involved with the decision making of the chore, rather than be ordered to do the chore.
As a much older observer of my own less than perfect parenting styles of way back when, I clearly see how my once well intended authoritative stance with my first child gave him plenty of reasons to feel as if his fundamental right to feel free was being threatened. If I could go back in time, I would care less about what the neighbors thought about my little boys mismatched outfits, and long hair. I would have asked for his cooperation, rather than forced him to do things he didn't want to do.
Looking back, I see now that at my sons core was always a desire to make his mama happy. Had I learned not to care myself so much about what others thought, I would have felt more free as well. At my core, as at my sons core, was and always will be a need to feel free. And the more I learn to accept myself for who I am, as well as to accept my son for the miraculous being he is, the happy we both become.
Beings were intended to come into this physical realm with the freedom to choose their own thoughts, wants and ultimately to manifest their truest desires.
But sadly, more often than not, beings are born into situations that are less than ideal. When beings are born to dysfunctional parents, and are programmed to worry more about what others think about them, then what they think about themselves, beings are pulled out of alignment with their true purpose.
Freedom is the fundamental requirement for happiness. If a being does not feel free, he/she will be unable to reveal to themselves the content of their truest desires. The being who feels oppressed in some way, will instead need to push against those he/she perceives as his/her oppressor.
If we as parents truly want our children to be happy, we must understand that at our children's very core is the need to feel free.
All beings ultimately come to this time and space to experience joy. Beings who feel free to truly be who they are, avoid painful experiences. If parents used these concepts consciously while rearing their children they could avoid future problematic issues.
Children who rebel, rebel because they sense their freedom is being threatened. Because the need to feel free is so innate, children sometimes involve themselves with risk taking behavior simply as a means to prove to their oppressors that they are ultimately in charge of their own lives.
It is wiser for us as parents to use language that invokes the idea of collectiveness. Asking a child when he/she is going to take the garbage out, rather than telling the child to take the garbage out, suggests that the child is involved with the decision making of the chore, rather than be ordered to do the chore.
As a much older observer of my own less than perfect parenting styles of way back when, I clearly see how my once well intended authoritative stance with my first child gave him plenty of reasons to feel as if his fundamental right to feel free was being threatened. If I could go back in time, I would care less about what the neighbors thought about my little boys mismatched outfits, and long hair. I would have asked for his cooperation, rather than forced him to do things he didn't want to do.
Looking back, I see now that at my sons core was always a desire to make his mama happy. Had I learned not to care myself so much about what others thought, I would have felt more free as well. At my core, as at my sons core, was and always will be a need to feel free. And the more I learn to accept myself for who I am, as well as to accept my son for the miraculous being he is, the happy we both become.
acoa, adult child, codependency
parenting and the law of attraction
Friday, February 3, 2012
Self Esteem For Children and The Law of Attraction
Sadly there has been a backlash as a result of all the hoopla created over the amazing book "The Secret". In conversations I have had with people who have not taken the time to study this universal law, I have unfortunately noticed that there is an overwhelming tendency for these people to discount the true meaning of the law of attraction. As if the law of attraction is some silly made up delusional mental creation related to sorcery, rather than the scientific fact it is, many people dismiss the enlightening knowledge it possesses, and fail to use the law to enhance their lives.
The very basis of our galaxy is the result of like matter being attracted to like matter. Our planets, once nothing more than swirling dust; the result of being sucked into a black hole, swirled and swirled into a vortex, until matter that was liken to itself was forced to magnetically bind. Vortexes are the result of magnetism. The very basic unit of what a being is, is in fact a vortex. An atom is a swirling vortex of energy.
Why then is there so much hesitancy in beings towards grasping the true meaning of 'the law of attraction'? Why then do people turn their unlearned noses up at the very mention of the most powerful law on earth?
The answer is simple. If people cannot see it, they have a hard time believing in it, yet no one doubts the sun exists long after it has set and the moon sits in the sky. And how simple is it for parents to doubt the pain their child may be in, because his/her wounds are on the inside, opposed to on the outside, in the form of a bruise or a laceration.
Self esteem is defined as regard for ones self. If the adults in children's lives do not know who they are, and do not come to understand how magnificent and perfect the soul is, no matter who the soul is, based purely on the concept of the miracle of the law of attraction, how then can a parent ever truly be equipped emotionally to be able to convey to a confused child the absolute knowing that their child is perfect?
At a very deep level beings have been ingrained to believe their worth is found through something outside of themselves. Religion separates man from god. Religion teaches us that we are born with original sin. This of course is a lie. Every life form is miraculous. But unless parents learn to love themselves, they cannot efficiently pass that knowing, that emotion, that vibration onto their children.
Mothers who complain about their weight, their age, their skin, or the unfortunate circumstances in their lives, emit negative emotions in the form of vibrations. These vibration will be absorbed by their children and draw into the lives of their children like negative energies in one form or the other.
Fathers who call their children names, are over controlling, or who never show up for their children, send negative emotional energy in the form of vibrations to their children. This lack of feeling worthy in the eyes of a child as the result of his/her fathers ridicule, criticism, or absence, infuses the child with a sense of low self worth. This negative emotion is emitted on a vibrational level from the child, and as a result this child will draw into his/her experience the exact equivalent vibration into his/her life experience. Whether it is bullying at school, or being the bully, or getting hurt, or poor grades, or getting into trouble, it is simply like energy being drawn to like energy.
Self esteem is a vortex of either positive or negative energy. The more a parent understands his/her self and fully grasps the magnitude of the gift life is, the greater their child's vortex of positive self esteem.
The very basis of our galaxy is the result of like matter being attracted to like matter. Our planets, once nothing more than swirling dust; the result of being sucked into a black hole, swirled and swirled into a vortex, until matter that was liken to itself was forced to magnetically bind. Vortexes are the result of magnetism. The very basic unit of what a being is, is in fact a vortex. An atom is a swirling vortex of energy.
Why then is there so much hesitancy in beings towards grasping the true meaning of 'the law of attraction'? Why then do people turn their unlearned noses up at the very mention of the most powerful law on earth?
The answer is simple. If people cannot see it, they have a hard time believing in it, yet no one doubts the sun exists long after it has set and the moon sits in the sky. And how simple is it for parents to doubt the pain their child may be in, because his/her wounds are on the inside, opposed to on the outside, in the form of a bruise or a laceration.
Self esteem is defined as regard for ones self. If the adults in children's lives do not know who they are, and do not come to understand how magnificent and perfect the soul is, no matter who the soul is, based purely on the concept of the miracle of the law of attraction, how then can a parent ever truly be equipped emotionally to be able to convey to a confused child the absolute knowing that their child is perfect?
At a very deep level beings have been ingrained to believe their worth is found through something outside of themselves. Religion separates man from god. Religion teaches us that we are born with original sin. This of course is a lie. Every life form is miraculous. But unless parents learn to love themselves, they cannot efficiently pass that knowing, that emotion, that vibration onto their children.
Mothers who complain about their weight, their age, their skin, or the unfortunate circumstances in their lives, emit negative emotions in the form of vibrations. These vibration will be absorbed by their children and draw into the lives of their children like negative energies in one form or the other.
Fathers who call their children names, are over controlling, or who never show up for their children, send negative emotional energy in the form of vibrations to their children. This lack of feeling worthy in the eyes of a child as the result of his/her fathers ridicule, criticism, or absence, infuses the child with a sense of low self worth. This negative emotion is emitted on a vibrational level from the child, and as a result this child will draw into his/her experience the exact equivalent vibration into his/her life experience. Whether it is bullying at school, or being the bully, or getting hurt, or poor grades, or getting into trouble, it is simply like energy being drawn to like energy.
Self esteem is a vortex of either positive or negative energy. The more a parent understands his/her self and fully grasps the magnitude of the gift life is, the greater their child's vortex of positive self esteem.
Thursday, February 2, 2012
What Is Your Vibrational Offering
Because anyone with half an ounce of intelligence whom has ever taken the time to ponder the fact that our very planet, its sun, and orbiting planetary siblings, is a physical representation of the law of attraction at work, it is fair to assume that like in fact attracts like.
If this is true for the planet we walk on in relation to the sun we derive life from, then it must also be true for we physical beings and our human brothers and sisters.
Building upon this premise, it would be safe to assume then that all creatures attract their own sets of circumstances.
But how?
We beings are vibrational creatures first. We are physical manifestations of our vibrational states of being. Our emotions, rule our behavior. Therefore, who and what we are on a vibrational level attract to ourselves its equal.
If I hate my self, I will attract people, circumstances and situations that validate that fact for me.
If I feel lonely, and seek out into my environment for love, I will not find it. My vibrational point of attraction will not allow it.
If more beings took the time to go within, and appreciated their vibrational points of attraction in the now, then beings could master their destinies deliberately drawing into the experiences the things they desire.
If this is true for the planet we walk on in relation to the sun we derive life from, then it must also be true for we physical beings and our human brothers and sisters.
Building upon this premise, it would be safe to assume then that all creatures attract their own sets of circumstances.
But how?
We beings are vibrational creatures first. We are physical manifestations of our vibrational states of being. Our emotions, rule our behavior. Therefore, who and what we are on a vibrational level attract to ourselves its equal.
If I hate my self, I will attract people, circumstances and situations that validate that fact for me.
If I feel lonely, and seek out into my environment for love, I will not find it. My vibrational point of attraction will not allow it.
If more beings took the time to go within, and appreciated their vibrational points of attraction in the now, then beings could master their destinies deliberately drawing into the experiences the things they desire.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Enabling Mothers and The Price Her Children Pay
Mothers often feel the most jilted when one of their children has gone astray. Regardless of what has called the child to wander, whether it be drugs or some other type of rebellious behavior, mothers are too often frozen in time, hurt by the notion that in some way they have failed their child.
Freedom to choose is the most basic of all human needs. And when a being feels so powerless, whether that loss is the result of overbearing, neurotic, anxious, needy, well intended parents or is the result of feeling as if the world is a frightening place, sometimes beings will seek the 'freedom' to experience negative situations, knowing the very thing they are experiences is not good for them.
It is not about the 'thing' (drug or alcohol). Instead it is about the freedom to choose something in their life, the others in their life cannot control. And because beings feel the need to 'hide or do bad things' like drugs, the secrecy involved in the behavior adds to the illusion of 'freedom'. You cannot control a child's drug habit, if you do not know about it.
And a mother cannot lose herself in deeper feelings of powerlessness if she does not know her child has a drug habit. Nor can she burden her child emotionally with blame for her feelings of powerlessness.
Mothers who are enabling in nature, whether that be to the men in their lives, or to others, send negative messages to their children.
Mothers without clear outlined boundaries leave their children with a sense of insecurity and powerlessness.
Mothers who do not know who they are, who come off like doormats for the people in their lives, transfer that sense of powerlessness to their children, and thus rob them of a strong sense of self.
And while no mother is ever responsible for a drug a child shoots in his/her veins, a mother who does not exemplify strong boundaries, emits to her children the notion, the idea that her life is no longer about choices. A mother without boundaries is a woman that is seen by the world as well as her children, a woman who no longer believes in her freedom.
Enabling mothers are confused.
Overly nice, people pleasing mothers, who think the world will love them more if they never speak up, draw a boundary line or say 'no', teach their children to disempower themselves.
Because enabling mothers are ego fear based, they are often overwhelmed in crisis, and are unfortunately ill equipped to be the voice of wisdom and strength their child needs most in such times.
“A Mother who radiates self-love and self-acceptance actually VACCINATES her daughter against low self-esteem. ”
― Naomi Wolf
Freedom to choose is the most basic of all human needs. And when a being feels so powerless, whether that loss is the result of overbearing, neurotic, anxious, needy, well intended parents or is the result of feeling as if the world is a frightening place, sometimes beings will seek the 'freedom' to experience negative situations, knowing the very thing they are experiences is not good for them.
It is not about the 'thing' (drug or alcohol). Instead it is about the freedom to choose something in their life, the others in their life cannot control. And because beings feel the need to 'hide or do bad things' like drugs, the secrecy involved in the behavior adds to the illusion of 'freedom'. You cannot control a child's drug habit, if you do not know about it.
And a mother cannot lose herself in deeper feelings of powerlessness if she does not know her child has a drug habit. Nor can she burden her child emotionally with blame for her feelings of powerlessness.
Mothers who are enabling in nature, whether that be to the men in their lives, or to others, send negative messages to their children.
Mothers without clear outlined boundaries leave their children with a sense of insecurity and powerlessness.
Mothers who do not know who they are, who come off like doormats for the people in their lives, transfer that sense of powerlessness to their children, and thus rob them of a strong sense of self.
And while no mother is ever responsible for a drug a child shoots in his/her veins, a mother who does not exemplify strong boundaries, emits to her children the notion, the idea that her life is no longer about choices. A mother without boundaries is a woman that is seen by the world as well as her children, a woman who no longer believes in her freedom.
Enabling mothers are confused.
Overly nice, people pleasing mothers, who think the world will love them more if they never speak up, draw a boundary line or say 'no', teach their children to disempower themselves.
Because enabling mothers are ego fear based, they are often overwhelmed in crisis, and are unfortunately ill equipped to be the voice of wisdom and strength their child needs most in such times.
“A Mother who radiates self-love and self-acceptance actually VACCINATES her daughter against low self-esteem. ”
― Naomi Wolf
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