If you are no longer finding yourself happily married, but still married you will be finding it difficult not to continually find fault in your mate.
Our intimate relationship is the one relationship that mirrors to us our subconscious beliefs about ourselves and the world.
How we view our mate, very much reflects how we see ourselves.
If we no longer desire our mate, then you have lost interest in your own desires.
If you wish to ignore your mate, there is something inside of you you are neglecting.
If you are angry at your mate, there is something within you you are angry about.
If you no longer enjoy sex, you have stopped enjoying your own company.
If you are angry at your partner because he/she won't do act like you want them to act, then you are feeling controlled by your circumstances, and rather than start with changing yourself, you would rather have others change so that your existence is more tolerable...but it doesn't work that well...not well anyway...
If you have lost passion for your mate, you have lost passion for YOU...
If you are in an abusive relationship, then you abuse yourself, and for whatever reason see yourself as a victim.
If you are generally unhappy, irritable, and negative, chances are your self talk is unhappy, irritating and negative.
Uncover the subconscious beliefs that generate the thoughts you think, and detangle your minds self.