Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Self Esteem and The Law of Attraction

Unfortunately many of us as children we were not taught to value our own thoughts. Instead we were treated as if what we thought, needed, or wanted was unimportant. In large ways and in small, it was impressed upon us to concern ourselves more with what others thought about us, than what we thought about us.

The good little children amongst us smiled when we felt like crying, and shut our mouths when we felt like screaming. We were too young at the time to understand that what we were being conditioned to do was to deny our selves for the sake of other peoples comfort. What we never could have ever understood was we were being programmed to cut ourselves off from the very essence of who we were.

For anyone lucky enough to have been encouraged to follow their dreams, it is my hope that gratitude is your constant companion. For all the rest of us, who were instead told that our dreams were frivolous; or worse, were never asked about our dreams at all...hold on...your best is yet to come.

I have just completed Kevin Trudeau's 14 CD program on the law of attraction. And daily I listen to youtube video's of Esther Hicks.

I am in complete agreement with both teachings on the law of attraction, but feel that some basic "self help" jargon might be beneficial for anyone truly interested in becoming a student of the law of attraction.

THE SELF

Before you can manifest your desires in the physical, you must learn to "hear and value" your own mind.

If you are in a dysfunctional relationship of any kind, or if you are addicted to alcohol, drugs, food, sex, attention, shopping...whatever...you will have a difficult time using the law of attraction to bring to you those things that will ultimately bring you joy. This is because addictions and dysfunctional relationships can never bring us joy, and unless we free ourselves from them, our thinking will not be free or strong enough to attract to us the positive. Instead we will simply draw to us more of the negative.

The law of attraction is always at work.

But if you want to use it to your advantage, you must gain clarity.

You must know who you are.

You must learn to trust your gut and to cut others out of your life that drain you.

You must actively seek to make peace with right where you are, no matter where you are...

If your life sucks right now, find something to praise, to adore, and to shower with love anyway, even if all you can love right now is a goldfish. Just love that goldfish as much as you can, until that feeling of love fills you up.

If your life sucks right now, put your hands under running water and be thankful for running water. Be thankful for the water, for the pipes that carry the water and for the ability to taste and feel water. Love the water that is flowing through your fingertips until that feeling of love swallows up whatever negative has been going on in your life.

THE PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND THE LAW OF ATTRACTION

If you have been told in large ways or small, that what others think of you is more important than what you think of you, know that you have been lied to. Truer, this type of programming also builds neuro pathways in the brain which cause your brain to "think" out of habit. Worrying about what others think of you is actually just a habit of thought which, with enough practice can be changed.

Teaching yourself to feel "grateful" helps build new neuro pathways in your brain, which will help you think healthier more positive thoughts.

When you worry what others think, you attract people who judge you. You then find yourself in situations that have you worrying about what other people are saying or thinking about you.

When instead your daily focus becomes about loving a goldfish, or the beauty of a sunrise, or simply learning to be grateful for running water, you are teaching your brain to think differently.

You then begin attracting healthier more positive thoughts.

To be able to use the law of attraction to your advantage, you first must tune into YOU.

But before you can tune into you, YOU must learn to love YOU first, and that takes practice.

HOW TO LOVE YOUR SELF

Your feelings must guide you. If where you are feels negative, then leave where you are, and trust that your inner guide will lead you to a more positive place.

If you are unhappy in your relationship and no change is in sight, make peace with the idea that this relationship does not serve you, and leave it.

If you are unhealthy, overweight, overeat, or binge drink, you know on some level this is negatively effecting you. If you can accept this reality, make peace with this reality, and then change it. Start doing things that make you feel happy inside.

You must keep reaching for better, healthier, and more joyful feelings.

No matter where you are...there is something you can love.

Stop complaining...stop blaming...stop judging others...stop whining...and start making yourself happy...and watch the universe respond to your new way of thinking.

When your thoughts change, so does your life...