How To Get Past This Present Negative Reality

Scientists are now finally coming to the brave understanding that alternate universes exist.

In fact, the current reality you are living is a fraction of who and what you are, and what you are capable of.

Your creative mind is as useful, and as important as your ability to speak, for in your mind, you can be wherever, whomever and whatever you can imagine. Your creative self is infinite.

To not IMAGINE yourself to be as your all too short dreams can imagine you to be, is to keep fortunes buried in your backyard.

You are fat, because you do not IMAGINE your self thin. You are fat, because everywhere you look society reminds you that you are, through television ads, radio commercials and so on.

You are poor, because you have been conditioned to believe you are not supposed to be rich. Read the paper, listen to the radio or watch the news...what is the programming you are receiving daily?

If you can imagine it, it exists somewhere out there...

But if all you do is stay stuck, and do not IMAGINE your life any better, you will stay stuck.

If you want to be free in physical time, you first must free your mind from what is...

IMAGINE, daydream, envision your self doing and being exactly what, how and where you want to be.

Get out of the here and the now...and pull your thoughts higher...

Please write back to me and tell me how your life has changed when you finally open your mind to your infinite possibility...

Positive/Negative People Test

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4GtimvTX6Q&feature=related

How To Test If Others Are Good or Bad For Me

In all of us are beliefs.

Some of these beliefs are conscious, but most of them are unconscious.

Do you enjoy the thoughts that swirl about in your head?

Do you enjoy your behaviors?

Do you love your Self?

If you are like so many young women and men today, you do not enjoy most of the B/S that is swirling about in your head, nor do you enjoy the obsessive compulsive things you do to get your mind to shift from focusing on the negative thoughts that are in your head...

WTF?

Is that where you are? Are you in that place-the WTF place?

If you are, you are not alone....

Stop...listen to this wise woman who has spent far too many years in that WTF place.

I wanted everyone to like me, to accept me, to tell me I was good enough, and it never showed up in quite the way I needed it to, to fill that WTF place up in my head.

Why???

I had friends. I had a decent job. I was attractive. I had a family and my dog loved me.

WTF...why was I so displeased with me?

The problem was, what was wrong could not be fixed by anyone or anything on the outside...DUH...I was looking for others to fix something they couldn't...But stubborn, pig headed me, kept insisting others love me enough to make this WTF feeling go away...

Okay, so WTF...how did I get my mind from way over there in psycho land where I was not only frustrating myself, but everyone around me...to this kick ass, bissful, I love me no matter what anyone else thinks of me, place???

The journey was long, but so worth the trip.

I first had to uncover what it was I believed. My beliefs were ruling my world and keeping me stuck.

I believed everyone had to like me...WRONG...

I believed everyone had to think I was pretty...WRONG...

I believed if I was good enough others would naturally treat me well...WRONG...

I believed if I loved someone they had to love me back...WRONG...

I believed I was only good enough if someone else told me so...WRONG...

I believed if I was good to someone, they had to be just as good back to me, and if they didn't that meant something was wrong with me...WRONG...

I believed that if my relationship wasn't turning out well, that it was all my fault, and that if I was good, I'd hang in there...WRONG...

I believed it was normal to fight in a relationship...WRONG...

I believed that even when I was treated poorly, I probably did something to deserve it, and I was supposed to stay...WRONG...

I believed if I loved someone, I hung in there no matter what...WRONG...

I believed being alone was a terrible thing...WRONG...

I believed that I had to be pretty, thin, and smart for others to like me...WRONG...

I believed that if someone loved me, they were supposed to be attached to my hip, and validate me always (eek..needy bitch I was..lol)...WRONG...


HOLY CRAP...

When I finally stopped whining about how miserable I was, and started uncovering what beliefs were governing my thinking, I began to understand that I was on a collision course...and I was the cause of all my WTF thinking...

There was no way a girl like me, with thoughts like these was not going to attract some piece of s---...of a man.

I was literally putting my sense of self in someone else's hands.

I was literally saying, "I will love you so you love me back, because I don't know how to love myself. I will ATTACH my needy ass self to you, and drown you with affection, not because you need it you loser, but because I believe if that I do, you MUST do what I want you to do, which is to make this WTF feeling go away...I am demanding you to fill this WTF place in me, so I can stop these WTF feelings in my head. And even though you will probably take advantage of my neediness, treat me like dog sh-- on your shoe, push me away, and only show affection when you want to get laid, I am gonna hang in there...because that's what I BELIEVE I should do."

WTF? Really, I mean WTF?

Its no mystery why I was so miserable...

So I figured it all out. I didn't think I was good enough because my mother's love wasn't all that reassuring...

I was taught to care more about what others thought about me than what I thought about me...and so I picked up all these negative beliefs along my life's path.

But now I have learned that unless I own my power, and stop giving my sense of self over to dysfunctional, self absorbed others, ( and unfortunately sometimes this includes our parents, siblings, best friends, co workers, and husbands ), I will be destined to live the remainder of my life on planet WTF.

WTF is not necessary.

If you are unhappy and the people in your life are bringing you down, GET RID OF THEM, and start paying attention to how you FEEL, when you are around people.

People that are GOOD for you will make you FEEL secure, warm, positive, and cared for.

Your energy literally goes up when you are around someone who is good for you, and down when you are slamming yourself into someone who is NOT good for you...

Check out the video above. Want to test your energy to see if those in your life are good for you or bad for you? Do the above muscle test while sitting next to your brother, sister, boyfriend, girlfriend, boss, mother, father or even around alcohol.

Anything or anyone that is not good for you, will show up in your energy field...

If you are on planet WTF, it is because YOU are not where you belong. YOU are gravitating towards things and others that are weighing you down...

How To Stop Needing To Be Needed

For many chaos is a way of life. It is normal to obsess about what others are doing, what they are thinking, buyings, what kind of car they are driving, or who they are having sex with and so on. It is so much the norm, that the world at large has forgotten to mind their own damn business.

And that is the root of the problem.

When we are paying more attention to what others think, feel and are doing, we disconnect ourselves from our true source.

When we are raised by mothers or fathers who are codependent and do not show us how to love ourselves or mirror for us healthy, nurturing, back and forth male to female relationships, we grow very much aware of this tremendous void that lives within us. We watch our caretakers look outside for this sense of fulfillment, and thus so we learn to do the same.

The void that lives within our parents, is not a void we can see, but it is a void we can feel. We don't know why we feel so disconnected from ourselves as children, we just know we do. We don't know why we feel so anxious as children, we just know we don't feel secure. The problem is, our brains tell us everything 'looks' physically fine, and thus our brain continues to reason that things should be fine. But on an emotional level, or on the level we can tune into as a vibration, we are 'feeling' that things really are not 'fine'. The gap between what we see in our 'physical or manifested' world is out of alignment with what we sense in our 'non physical, emotional' world which is felt as a vibration of disconnect.

As we go out into the world, it is difficult for us to imagine that that void is not supposed to be filled by something outside of us. We think, food, sex, drugs, alcohol, or the love of another will fill that space up that is so deep and so dark.

As years pass the void never seems to fill up. Our relationships eventually stop exciting us. We grow tired of looking for the other to fill that void that has not been able to be filled by the other. We then blame the other for not being able to hold our attention, or for not being able to fulfill our needs. Or the drama has escalated to such a degree, that we simply do not know how not to not see what we do not want to see in our partners. We are so disconnected to the harmony that is supposed to be within ourselves, we settle for the distraction of chaos, break up, make up, highs, lows, addiction, and drama. It is like a wheel we cannot seem to jump off of.

Many times we settle for being needed. We pick up others along our life's path that we see as wounded. We tell ourselves that fixing someone else will inevitably lead to satisfaction, because unconsciously we believe that if we fix this someone else, they will in turn love us forever and never leave us. The feeling or the vibration is, "If I fix you, you will have to owe me forever for fixing you. You will validate me, because I cannot validate myself. You will show me how good I am, in the reflection of how well I can fix you. In turn, the good I see in you, will show me how good I am, because my eyes still look outside of me for validation."

The void in you can only attract more of a void. What you transmit emotionally or through your vibration, is a feeling of emptiness. Your loving then, can only return more of the same.

If you want to stop needing to feel needed, you are going to have to learn to self satisfy, self love, self appreciate, self gratify and above all other things self love.

If you have been wounded by the dogma of your religions, know that self love is not a form of ugly selfishness.

Self love is equivalent to loving the Christ, the Buddha, the Abraham or the Mohammed in you.

Self love is learning to believe that everything about you is connected to source, God, the Universe, or whatever the higher power that created you is referred to by you. Sleeping well, non drugging, removing yourself from negative others, places and influences, long hot baths, meditation, a bouquet of flowers, a peaceful stroll through a fragrant park, these are not the things of selfishness. They are the way to a true life.

If you want to know how to stop needing to be needed, practice the art of 'loving selfishness'. Day by day, thought by thought, it gets better.

If You Are Not Happy

If you are not happy, you are doing something wrong.

How To See The Good In Any Bad

If I could bring you back in time, to the point of your physical creation, and I could somehow make you feel what it was your tiny soul felt while wading in the miraculous fluid that filled your mothers womb, what you would remember is an intense bliss. In every cell of your being, you would have known life was good, that you were good, and that nothing else could have mattered.

If I could bring you back in time, to the point of your physical birth, and I could somehow make you remember how your tiny soul felt, while being swaddled in your mothers arms, what you would remember is a feeling of complete wholeness and blissfulness. In every cell of your being you would have known that the only thing that mattered was this good feeling.

If when things went wrong in your life today, I could somehow take you back in time, to the point of your physical creation or the point of your physical birth, and I could somehow get you to see whatever bad you were experiencing now, through the eyes of those blissful moments in time, the bad would disintegrate like a grain of sugar in a hot cup of tea.

If you could learn to see your life today through the non physical eyes of your source, there would be very little you could label as bad, not good, ugly, or frustrating. When you learn to remember the good that created you, and when remember how blissful your beginning was, you allow yourself to be freed of the unnecessary pain that can only be born out of pure physical.

My friend, the only time it is possible to feel pain, to see bad, or to experience negative emotion is when we are disconnected from the non-physical perfect source created being that we are. We are non-physical, vibrational beings first, before we are physical beings. We think before we act, which is to say we are in thought (non-physical) before we are in action (physical).

We too were non-physical beings (source) before we were physical beings (human). Nothing else makes sense.

Before anything can ever be, it first must be a vibration. If it were possible for you to see things through the eyes of creation, it would be impossible to not see the good in all things, including what most unawakened minds would consider bad things. If humans see bad at all, it is because they have forgotten their true nature. Our true nature is bliss.

How To Be Happy Now

In so many ways we tell ourselves we are not enough. We find ourselves wishing for more, and often those feelings leave us feeling helpless, hopeless, or dissatisfied.

My prayer for you is that in those moments when you are feeling down and out, close your eyes, and visualize all the wonderful things that are in your life that are right right now.

You are perfect right where you are. Ten minutes of soothing music, with your mind active with visions of those things and those people you love, will help clear negativity from you.

On this day, I feel like the luckiest woman alive. I have so much to be grateful for, and sometimes I feel like wanting more is wrong. But it is not, as long as I remember to love and show deep appreciation for where it is I am.

How Can I Make A Man Fall In Love With Me

Ayyayyyyyyyyyyyaaaaaaa........

Yes, believe it or not, I have been asked this question too. "Lisa how can I make any man fall in love with me?"

It seems like a silly question, but in the juice of it is a woman who is still seeking outside of herself the acceptance she should be seeking within.

For any woman, or man for that matter to ask or to contemplate such a question is to imply that the asker of the question is not in love with their own Self.

If the thinker of such a question is under the delusion that there is some hokey pokey mumbo jumbo answer to this idea, then it is safe to presume the asker is one who seeks many answers to many questions outside of him/her Self. Therefore the thinker will, unless a conscious shift is made, perpetually seek outside of their own Self for happiness. This will leave the thinker frustrated, exhausted, and in search of, rather than an owning of ones own Self, love and happiness. And the thinker will ultimately blame those outside of him/her own Self for the lack of love they feel within.

Am I making sense here folks???

But for the hell of it, I am going to answer the question posed.

If you want a man, or a woman to fall in love with you, you first must fall in love with your Self.

Think law of attraction.

Non physical, which is the "feelings and or thoughts" you feel within you, must manifest in the physical, or in your time space reality.

If you find love right where you are within you, and begin by respecting your body through exercise and nutrition, and if you respect your mind through meditation, reading or writing, and if you absorb your Self with things and interests that delight you, love must show up in your physical reality.

But if you disrespect your body by polluting it with excessive amounts of fat and sugar, and if you dishonor your mind by giving thought to ideas of anger, frustration, victim-hood and blame, and if you do not seek to find things in your environment that delight you on the inside,then please do not muddy the waters any further by expecting anything but a partner that also pollutes and disrespects his/her body, plays the victim, and has no outside interests aside from looking to you to make him/her happy.

Whatever amount of love you now hold for your Self, will draw to you a partner that can only love you that much. Your beliefs of your Self, magnetically draw to you the vibrational match of partners.

If you are in a chaotic time in your life right now, you will attract a partner of chaotic energy. If you are wanting a distraction, then your partner will be so confusing to you, you will find yourself distracted by their chaotic beliefs, thinking and behaviors.

If you are unhappy with you, your partner will do things that reinforce that energy you feel within you. If you dishonor your own Self, expect your partner to dishonor you...There are no victims here, only co-creators.

When you want more, your belief in more must increase. And when your wants build enough energy so that they can become unconscious beliefs, you then begin attracting partners that reflect those new beliefs back to you. It can be no other way.

Keep playing the victim, keep blaming others, and expect others to continually victimize you while you stand there pointing your finger at the world, drawing your last breath, "Look what they've done to me"...

Gimmee a break...

So unless you are content with the love that is showing up in your partner, it is time to start loving you...and time to stop seeking love of Self.

Why Do Men Cheat

I have never been asked one question as often as I have this one.

"Lisa, tell me. In your opinion why do men cheat?"

If you read between the lines, what is being revealed in this question is really nothing more than one woman's, or many women's expectation of men. Sadly we live in a culture that seems to presume it is impossible for men NOT to cheat. It is as if in many ways, society cannot separate man from beast. We can send men to the moon, and transmit words through airwaves, but we can't seem to raise the bar on man's ability to control his primal impulse. It is as if because men secrete testosterone, they are given a pass or an excuse for not being able to keep their penis's in their pants.

The truth is, what a man thinks he is, he is. If a man believes he cannot not cheat, this man will likely cheat. His beliefs will attract thoughts, and situations that will reinforce that belief.

If on the other hand, this man uses his complete conscious mind, and chooses to confront that old societal belief, he can change that belief. Men can shove themselves into one vat, and draw parallels between themselves and silver back gorilla's, or they can expect more from themselves instead. Either way, the law of attraction will be at play.

As a man thinks, so shall he become. And thinking by the way, is a choice.

Females also play a role in why men cheat or why they seem to find themselves in relationships with men that cheat.

Women will tell me they never expected their spouse to cheat. They will claim they were shocked to discover their spouses were being unfaithful. But after sitting and talking to them more openly it is usually revealed that on various levels the women did not trust their spouses.
Perhaps it had to do with money, or where their spouses really were when they said they were working late, or how their mates reacted when an attractive woman entered a room, but in every case the women I spoke to could trace back a moment in time when they found themselves wrestling with feelings of trust when it came to the men in their lives.

This observation in no way is meant to imply that women cause their spouses to cheat. This article is however meant to stir ones thinking about what it is they THINK, about their mate, and more importantly what they think about themselves.

If at anytime a person ignores, denies or suppresses feelings or thoughts that question their trust in another, this disowning will eventually, as it gets played out lead to more destructive circumstances in the relationship, like an affair.

It is difficult for the unconscious and lacking self aware mind to imagine that she may have been part of the co-creating that manifested such circumstances in her marriage. This is not to imply blame on one spouse for the lack of integrity of the other. But the reality is, if there is a lack of integrity in the mind, there will be a lack of integrity in the physical. The non physical, always matches the physical.

Whether it is a lack of personal integrity of the man, or a lack of self respect in the woman, either road can only lead to destruction.

What I would like my readers to contemplate is deeper thinking, and thus embrace a broader view of the situation.

Imagine you are the woman who has been cheated on. Imagine it is your husband who exhibited complete disregard and or integrity for your feelings. Now ask your Self, from an observers vantage point, detached from anger, how many times you disregarded or showed a lack of integrity for your own feelings or worth in relation to your spouse. How often did you disown that gut feeling that made you feel he was lying to you? How often did you deny your right to your own feelings, and instead pretended like what you needed didn't matter? How often did your instincts tell you something was wrong and instead of confronting them, you ignored them?

If you tolerate a disowning of your own Self within the flesh that you are, and if you invite those into your life that show no respect for you, or your feelings, you cannot expect your daily life to reveal or manifest anything less.

Okay, so you wanna know why men cheat. Here it goes.

Some men cheat because they believe it is impossible for a man not to cheat. Some men cheat because they get bored with their wives and the routine of marriage. Some men cheat because they are insecure and need constant ego gratification from outside themselves. Some men cheat because they aren't happy unless they are feeling like they are getting away with something they shouldn't. Some men cheat because they fear aging and think a newer piece of ass means they aren't getting older. Some men cheat because there is a slut in the room. Some men cheat because its a bachelor party and the hookers are already paid for, and hey what guy is going to rat out another guy after he's already been with one of the hookers. Some guys cheat because the distraction of the affair makes their day go by faster. But all men who cheat, don't believe they cannot NOT cheat...what a man thinks he is...he is...

Ladies, you lovely, nurturing, splendid peace seeking creatures that you are, here is my best advice to you...

Love your Self as if you were the only person left on this planet. Listen to music that gives you thrill bumps. Buy your own bouquets of flowers. Pick careers that fulfill you. Choose relationships that lift you rather than drain you. Learn to dance in the rain. Refuse to allow anger, blame, or regret to spend one more second in your body longer than necessary. Release any negative emotion as if they were helium filled balloons being whisked away by the sky. Spend time alone, without the television, radio, cell phone or Ipod, and like it. Meditate on things that make you smile, and wave at every tiny baby you see, because all that baby sees is the perfect smiling creature that you are. Revel in the knowing that you are a woman, a creator, and a maker of life. Know your own mind, and respect the guidance that comes from within. If you feel like enough is enough, then it is. Learn to walk away when necessary, and when its necessary to stay. Turn your eyes inward, and stop seeking validation from others. Know that a partnership is a gift, but if your partner doesn't see the gift that you are, you are better off single giving gifts to your Self.

When you have finally learned to love the magnificent being that you are, you will then attract to you a mate who also loves the magnificent being he is. He will see in you a reflection of his perfect Self. Perfect love of Self casts out all fear. When you learn to love your Self fearlessly, then and only then can you expect for a perfect love to manifest in your reality.

Ladies what you think you are, you are...

Peace,joy and love to you all...

Lisa

How To Improve Self Esteem/And The Law of Attraction

Often when I mention the term 'the law of attraction', I am met with a confused eye. I get the impression that whom I am speaking to thinks that the law of attraction is some form of a new age religion or something close to it. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Since the "Secret" was released, many have been exposed to expanded ideas they otherwise may never have been exposed to. Our society seems to separate rather than integrate, as evidence in cultures, neighborhoods, government and religion. While culturally birds of a feather seem to flock together, the reality is beneath our skin, programming and conditioning, we are all the same.

Our government is branched and divided, as are our religions, who incredibly have all created gods to coincide with a particular cultures ideas of god. The question that haunts me however is, did god create man, or did man create god? And if we now, as modern, enormously intelligent advanced human beings, we do not question what we have been programmed to believe, and accept the same ideas of the not so modern or enormously intelligent minds of the past, how then will we ever truly discover the truth?

What is needed at this time is courage, open minded non judgements, and a dash of good old common sense.

What we need is a balanced blend of science, spirituality, and a basic understanding of human psychology.

Come on people-if we are all human beings, then we ALL came from the same source. If there is a god, he/she/it is a creator, and created us all. Peel back our skin, break us down to the beginning and our existence can be found within the workings of an atom. Some religions will say we all began with Adam, but in my opinion it is simply two sides of the same coin. One side represents the non physical while the other represents the physical.

In addition, as a man thinks so shall he create. What a man reeps in his non physical mind or thoughts so shall he sow. The non physical is always equal to the physical result. An ill mind will create ill situations and manifestations in his physical life.

Your beginning is proven by science, and cannot be disputed. What is now even being recognized by science is the idea of intelligence or collective consciousness. If you research the quantum field and great minds like Plank and Einstein you will be amazed to discover that atoms are mostly a field of energy. In fact an atom is 99.999999999999 percent field of space energy. You are more field energy than you are a 'physical being made up of matter'. You are more a receiver and transmitter of energy than you are anything else.

Buddhism is founded on the ideas of emptiness, oneness, and the nature of reality.

Buddhism is not founded on the idea of a god. In fact, Buddha is the name given to human beings who have reached enlightenment, and choose to help spread the wisdom of enlightenment. Buddhism holds the ill thinking of man responsible for the chaos of the mans life, and teaches that the only way to heal an ill life is through connecting to ones true Self by way of meditation, pure thought, and discipline.

Science does not point to the idea of a god, yet it does now point to an intelligence or as Max Plank described,"All matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force... We must assume behind this force the existence of a conscious and intelligent Mind. This Mind is the matrix of all matter". Science has now begun believing in the idea of consciousness, which is very similar to the Buddhist teachings of Nirvana or enlightenment. Nirvana is attained through becoming whole or one with the mind, which brings forth an appreciation for all that is and an understanding that all that is is also us.

It has been proven that just by observing an object you can change the nature of it. During the double slit experiment it was proven that when particles were unobserved they behaved like waves and had indefinite patterns and infinite possibility. But when the particles were observed the particles took on a finite number of patterns.

Stay with me folks!

Pull it all together. Use that magnificent mind of yours and THINK it through. Make the connections.

In the above experiment science has theorized that the observer of the experiment is likened to human consciousness.

Therefore when our minds are unobserved, like in a sleep state, our dream state is limitless. But when we awaken and become the observers of what is happening in our time and space, we then limit our possibilities.

This is because our BRAINS have been programmed to compartmentalize people, places and situations. We limit ourselves through our perceptions, which must pass through the filter of the ego.

The truth is we are limitless human intelligence. Unobserved, free from judgement and the desire to put ourselves and others into boxes, there truly is nothing we cannot achieve. This is a scientific fact proven in the double slit experiment. We, our projections effect our reality. We are the creators of our reality whether we believe we are or not. Your life is the result of the labels you have accepted by others, or given yourself, or by the meanings you have attached to yourself, others and or the things in your life.

There is a lot of information to digest in this article. But it is my belief, that if you pull it apart, ponder it, dissect it, and do your own research, you will come up with the same result that so many have.

Your potential is only limited by the thoughts you think.

Consider what Max Plank had to say about the force that created you; "All matter originates only by nature of a force. This force is created by an intelligence-a life force that requires only that we grow. Death, and disease is the non expansion of that energy gone awry".

You my dear are perfect. You are magnificent and if you believe in anything less it is because you have been programmed by others to believe in limits. There is nothing you cannot be, do or have. Your worth is not something you need to achieve or be good enough for. If you are suffering it is because you are not searching within for truth. Rather you avoid your shadow self, and choose to seek validation from other unenlightened human minds.

You are the observer, and you are being observed and projected upon by others. Just as when the instruments tried to observe the particles in the above mentioned double slit experiment, your conscious mind observes you and others and is projecting continually. What you "think" or what you "believe" alters what happens in your reality, and thus through the nature of the law of attraction, one thought will attract to it another thought of equal negative or positive charges.

If you choose to not search for happiness from within, you will not find enlightenment or peace, or joy, for your happiness will be based on something external.

You cannot seek self esteem or the love of self, from outside the self, also referred to by science as the force or the matrix.

Your only way to improve self esteem is by learning to embrace scientific truth. You are energy, and you are the observer and creator of your reality. You are writing the script that is your life.

Start now being more aware of what role you are playing in your drama. If you see yourself as a victim, expect the role you choose to come with many others who are willing to see you that way as well.

If you see yourself as helpless, expect others to see you and treat you that way as well.

You are not helpless. You have power within you, but unless you believe that you cannot change your life.

What you think you create. Do you know what you think?